have i been really nice or incredably stupid?

[shelleylou]

My xp has seen ds for 4 weeks now as he lost his job just before easter from what i can tell (text me easter monday to say he didnt know when he would be ale to see ds for that reason) . I spoke to him tuesday night to come to a agreement over him texting to find out how ds was and mentioned him coming down for a day to see ds, told me he couldnt as he has no transport etc and that it would be at least another month untill he would be able to see ds.
Ds and I went to my mums earlier nd she mention that dad had said about picking xp up from his and bringing him here so he could stay for a few days to see ds. This wouldnt be a specific journey made to pick xp up as my dad has clients he has to see where he lives.
So i phoned my xp and gave him the option/offer to do this as long as he could find his way back either public transport or getting his mum to collect him. He's going to see if he can sort something out and if he can he will come. I'm just trying to find a way for ds to see his dad hes 17 months so im worried the recognition wont be there if its too long between his last visit to his next. Hes an innocent party in all of this and as far as im concerned he deserves to see his dad however i now cant help ut wonder if ive been stupid by inviting xp to stay IYKWIM.

what a knob! I know men can be unsympathetic and not always understand womens emotions but you would have thought he could have made an effort seeing as his son is ill.
Its not ur responsibility to tell your son his father loves him, he should already know that from seeing his dad and if he doesnt then his dad should be seeing him more or chat to him on the phone or something not rely on u to pass messages on. if he missed him that much he would make more of an effort to see him. I get really anoyed with my ex for this exact reason. He will make out that jamie is the most important thing in the world to him but in reality he is way down his priorities list. Football women and drinking all come before him, he even puts his gfs daughter before our little boy.
as for the baby im expecting, it doesn get a look in. he's not interested. we went shopping at the weekend to get in some supplies, ie vests nappies etc just incase she arrives early and all he could do was moan that ds was too heavy to carry (forgot to bring push chair) and he wanted to go home, but if i dont involve him in things to do with the kids then i get told im pushing him away and trying to stop him seeing his son. y do they expect everything to b on their own terms when they have never bothered to be responsible fathers in the past and treat us like shit! sorry had to have a wee rant there.
I hope your little boy is ok. theres loads they can do for diabeties now. My friends sister has it and she just has an injection each morning and is fine. Make sure that if things get too touch coping on ur own that u offload onto your family and friends, even if you think their getting sick of hearing your voice. your lil boy needs you right now do u have to wait long for the result for the diabeties? char x

Mum knows whats happening but doesnt know how worried i am. Putting a brave face on it to family. Its only really people on here that know how worried i am.
I dont know when ill get the urine results back. They were going to test it for protein sugar and blood at the surgery hopefully today as i took it in this morning. If they find anything then they will have to send it to the lab at the hospital for further tests. I asked when i handed it in and they couldnt tell me. Im, going to make an appointment and ask for a blood test as it can be missed in the early stages in urine.

Love is as love does. Love isn't getting your xp to tell your son that you love them. Love is hauling your arse down the road to show your son yourself that you love them. What a wanker. OMG they make my farking blood boil. How does he think you'll get back together when he acts like this? "I need somebody in my life that doesn't give a fark about me or my son, xh: you need to come home?" Grrrr.

Anyway, so sorry to hear about your little boy. I know how scared you must be. It is very frightening to think your child is ill. Worse case scenario is that it is diabetes and it can be drug controlled. But more often than not these things turn out fine. Over the years, my kids have been hauled in for meningitis scares, kidney scares, diabetes and all sorts. Not a thing wrong with them (except they've all got "Can't Be Arsed's" disease). Sincerely hope you get the all clear, but I know you won't stop worrying til all results are back.

Charlotte, I've kept up with most of your posts and know you had trouble with your feelings towards xp. Hope the revelation about the six kids has put you off. What an absolute tosser. He really needs a government health warning tatooed on his forehead.

He can fark off. Theres no way I'd go back to him. He didnt give a damn about me when we were together wa empty promises and running away for a week.

I've just got an appointment to take him doctors this pm. Going to ask for a blood test as im not coninved it'll necessarily show in hsi urine as its early stages. If it is T1 diabetes i know ill deal with and control the condition. Its not knowing that is so hard. Thanks LW

Arsehole!!!!
Tried telling him about what was going on and he basically cut me half way through im ill i just want to go back to bed. Sounded like he had the girls there but he told me it was the tv! Wants me to fill him in on the rest tomorrow sod that if he was that bothered he would have found it all out tonight surely.