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Does anyone know if I can change my childs surname??

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LoneLou · 10/04/2008 14:35

Hey, everyone not been on here for ages hope your all well.
My problem is my X (I think) is planning on marrying his new woman thing is my son has got X's surname (we were never married) thing is I cannot stand the fact that my son will have the same surname as the other woman it makes my blood boil.
So I'm asking if anyone knows if I can change his surname and give him mine instead. I understand that I cannot change his birth certificate but deed poll maybe???
help.

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LoneLou · 13/04/2008 10:51

Thanks everyone for your advice. I've decided to change my name, less hassle and x doesn't have to know anything about this and even if he does find out its nothing to do with him I just want to take my sons name.
I would defo strongly advise unmarried women to not give their children their partners name, maybe I've become cynical but thats how I feel.

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littlewoman · 14/04/2008 17:35

I would also strongly advise against it. After all, it's only vanity on the man's part that their children have their name. It is far less hassle legally if they have their mother's name. If the man wants them to have his name, he can always marry their mother (that was my plan, anyway, but we all know how that ended )

MadameCh0let · 14/04/2008 17:42

You're going to change your sur name to your ex's? Wow. My children have a different sur name to me, and it does seem odd. I wouldn't want to link myself to my ex like that though. yuck.

I would have liked to have had the same sur name as my children, but I couldn't go through with changing it back now. It might look as though their father had no interest in them, and he did. He's an awkward, selfish, control-freak, but he did want the children.

It's a tough one. I've mulled it over myself and although I'm doing nothing, leaving their names his name, I think about it from time to time.

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