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Thats it, i have had enough of the stupid, selfish tosser

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CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 18:33

I posted the other week about xp being obsesed with me either having met someone else or trying to meet someone.

I mostly ignore him, even though he manages to make a comment about it, from nothing.

Anyway today he brought the kids back, and there was a group pic on the fireplace of me at my friends hen weekend.

He picked it up and started saying 'god she's ugly' and making general unpleaseant comments about the other girls in the pic. Then he said 'well i bet you were the only one to pull then'.

I know I shouldn't have responded but it's really annoying me. I told him to grow up and to stop the constant remarks as it was really pissing me off.

He went ballistic, told me to fuck off, and said thats it i am going, and i really mean that is it completely. I am not sure what he meant by that.
He slammed my living room door, then opened it again and said 'you did didn't you, you went with someone else'

I told him that wether i had or not was non of his damn business and to leave me alone and grow up. He then said '3 days, 3 fucking days you were gone for'.

Not sure what that meant.

I so wish I could have him out of my life forever. I am never going to be free of him, and this is just a taste of whats to come if i do ever meet anyone else.

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hercules1 · 09/04/2008 18:36

No advice, sorry. It does sound like unless he developes a life of his own (unlikely I now) he isn't going to stop being such a prime wanker as far as you are concerned. Sympathies to you

Iota · 09/04/2008 18:37

he is such and arse.

Did I miss a thread? How did the hen weekend go? Did you have a fab time?

Aimsmum · 09/04/2008 18:38

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CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 18:39


You are right, unless he meets someone himself, then he is going to carry this on and on and on.

I try so hard to be fair with him wrt kids etc and this is how he acts.

Oh and incase anyone is wondering, i didn't pull whilst i was away, didn't try.

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misdee · 09/04/2008 18:41

should've told him you hsagged an entire stag group and they were all better than him.

he is a total arse!

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 18:41

I think I did a thread Iota, not sure now LOL.

It was absolutly fabulous, I was really really glad I went.

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CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 18:42

I wish Misdee

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Iota · 09/04/2008 18:42

That's great. I remember the passport panic

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/04/2008 18:45

LOL at misdee's suggestion. I'd do that next time.

ladytophamhatt · 09/04/2008 18:45

Has he given you the money he promised yet?

He sounds pretty pissed off so I hoep he has because I can just imagine him keeping it to piss you off.

ladytophamhatt · 09/04/2008 18:46

actually thats abit nosey...ignore it if ou like.

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 18:56

LTH you nosey cow

Yeah he has given it to me LOL.

He is now ringing me saying he needs to talk to me. I said what about and he said 'me' , I said you have nothing to say that i want to hear.

I told him to go away and leave me alone,a dn he said fine , wont contact you at all again.

Now he is gonna be a pratt and not contact the kids I suppose.

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Freckle · 09/04/2008 19:07

Do the children really want to see him? Would their lives be any worse if they didn't see him so often? He sounds like a dangerous, obsessive man. It wouldn't surprise me if he doesn't sit somewhere spying on you whenever he can.

He clearly sees you as his possession and is furious that you are no longer under his direction supervision/control. I'd keep contact to the bare minimum. If he says something inappropriate, just don't answer. Keep quiet. Every time you respond, you are feeding his obsession.

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 19:13

He probably does spy on me, it would be easy as the block he is in is at the back of my house and the other week when he rang, he said 'it looks like blackpool illuminations in your house'. He said he'd been to the rubbish chute and could see that all of our upstairs lights were on.

Unfortunatly the kids do want to see him yes, well the dd's do. Ds is never particularly keen to go.

Thing is, he lives within a 2 min walk from me, I won't ever be free of him.

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CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 19:15

I really am not sure I can carry on living that close to him.

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bigknickersbigknockers · 09/04/2008 19:16

Can you move?

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 19:24

I could, but it would be very problematic.

I live in a 4 bed HA house and would be more than willing to downsize to a 3 bed, but I live in the nicest area that my HA have and so if i went on the list for a 3 bed elsewhere then I know i'd not be happy with where I got offered.

I can try and exchange myself but again it is not easy, people want something for nothing, they want my 4 bed, and like the area but then the fact that my house neds work puts them off, they don't want to compromise at all.

In addition to this, my mum lives on my doorstep and helps me with the kids etc daily.

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sparkybabe · 09/04/2008 19:37

Do you chuck him out? Some blokes are like this, they feel really childishly put out unless they are the ones to do the chucking. A friend of dh's was chucked by his girlfriend, he then ran about doing everything he could to get her back, then when she did go back, he chucked her.

He was happy then.


sparkybabe · 09/04/2008 19:40

Sorry meant DID you chuck him out.

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 19:42

Yep i did chuck him out, he never wanted the relationship to end, still doesn't.

I just can't see how he is ever going to leave me alone and still have contact with the kids.

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misdee · 09/04/2008 20:00

he may not have wanted it to end, but he hardly put any effort in to saving it did he? tosser (him!)

CrackerOfNuts · 09/04/2008 21:49

I am actually in a position at the mo to be able to pay a deposit on a privatly rented place, but try finding one around here that will accept housing benefit.

Mind you if i moving cos of him then it needs to be at least a bus rid away from here really doesn't it.

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Freckle · 10/04/2008 03:50

Is it wise to move from an HA property to privately rented? You would be at the mercy of the landlord/lady who only needs give you 2 months notice with no reason.

CrackerOfNuts · 10/04/2008 12:39

Well things went from bad to worse last night, and I am thb getting increasingly worried.

I went to bed at around 10pm, and got woken 3 times by him texting me, firstly a load of druken waffle and then he moved on to more graphic messages about what it was i was porbably doing if i couldn't reply to his texts.

I ignored all of the messages, I had no credit to reply anyway.

I eventually dropped off to sleep again, only to be woken again by the sound of someone putting something through my letter box. I left it a while and then went downstairs and it was a 4 page letter from him, detailing how he feels about me, how he won't ever stop loving me etc etc.

He then started ringing the house phone demanding that I read the letter right there and then. I ended up having to unplug the phone. He then started ringing my mobile over and over again until I told him if he rang once more i'd ring the police.

Thios morning he rang my mobile 17 times i the space of 10 minutes. He wanted to know who was taking the kids to school as he knew I had a doctors appointment. I told him to leave me alone. He has since sent a couple of txts asking again who took the kids to school. I have ignored them.

I don't know what to do. It's like he thinks it is his right to make me listen to how he feels. I refuse to listen to him on the phone and so he writes it down and then demands I read it.

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CrackerOfNuts · 10/04/2008 12:40

It would be very unwise Freckle, but at the moment I don't feel like I have an option.

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