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If there is any justice in the world...............

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nutcracker · 28/02/2008 18:26

The guy from school that I was madly in love with when I was eleven, and who has accepted my friend request on facebook, and sent me a message, will now fall madly in love with me.

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davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:56

(where are you? maybe we could go out together and paint the town red/blue/green?)

lou33 · 01/03/2008 21:58

its catch 22 nutty

you dont go out so you dont meet anyone

you wont meet anyone if you dont go out

you are losing your confidence because you are not out and about, but you cant get out and about because you are losing your confidence

you have to find a way of breaking this circle

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:58

I am in Brum.

I am not sure how to get my confidence back up tbh. A job wouldf help but at the mo, job hunting is another thing denting my confidence as no one wants to know.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 22:00

You are right Lou, but I get so nervous about it now that I just don't go.

For example, a friend has invited me to her 30th in a couple of weeks. It is at her house so somewhere familiar and not in a club/pub (which i hate), but it will be full of people I have never met, so I am not going. In all honestly it is a bit far for me to go, and i'd stuggle to get home, but if i wanted to, it would be doable.

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davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 22:01

what sorts of jobs are you looking for? how about an agency?

brums a bit far for me i'm afraid - how about the MN meet ups? i'm sure they'll have one up there - and it doesn't have to cost the earth.

it's true thou, if you don't get out it won't come back up again - little things like talking to someone new at the shops I suspect will help somewhat. is your ex still trying to pull you down as well?

ladytophamhatt · 01/03/2008 22:02

Nutty, please tell me the Hen weekend is all paid for and tickets got etc.
I'll be so disappointed if youdon't go. You really need thsi break...You HAVE to go!!

davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 22:02

apart from your friend will you know anyone there?

lou33 · 01/03/2008 22:03

no nutty

you ave to go
even if for only an hour
go thinking it will only be til x o'clock, then if you are not comfortable by then, leave

if you are , stay another 30 mins

have a couple of drinks before you leave the house as well

ladytophamhatt · 01/03/2008 22:03

that came out wrong..teh disappointed bit. YKWIM though I hope...

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 22:06

Yep hen weekend is all paid for, flights booked, passport got etc, so I will be going. If I said I was looking forward to it i'd be lying, but at the same time I know I have to go.

I wouldn't know anyone at friends party, other than her and her dp.

I don't talk to anyone that I don't need to tbh. Even at school.

Jobs wise, I dunno anymore. Recently applied for a job in which no experiance was required, and for which I met all of the person specification, and yet again I heard nothing.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 22:07

Problem is Lou, it is the other side of the city to me, and I'd have to go by bus to get there, which sounds fine, but I wouldn't actually know my way very well. I haven't a clue how i'd get home, it is too far to get a taxi.

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lou33 · 01/03/2008 22:08

you are looking for problems

share a cab , get a lift, stay over with a friend at theirs, you can find a way if you want to go

davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 22:09

how about trying to talk with some people at the shops or the school gate - or a smile even at least. (if you're not happy with saying hi - to someone you see regually I mean)

good that you're going on the hen weekend. i'm sure you'll have a fab time once oyu're there, and it will give you a boost.

also think you should go to your friends hosue - is it the walking in when the rooms full you're not keen on - if that's the case go a little early so you can be there to see new people one at a time as it were (1 on 1 chats I mean)

davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 22:10

yes stop if you can - will your mum stay at your house?

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 22:13

I can't share a lift, on one lives my way, all of her friends live by her.
I also can't stop over .

I know it seems like i am making excuses and perhaps I am, in which case it is my own fault I am in this situation.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 22:13

Sorry meant to say, can't stop over cos my mum is working.

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lou33 · 02/03/2008 15:32

what time does she start work?

LIZS · 02/03/2008 15:43

nutty you're going round in circles . You can't force soemone to give you a job but you can enrol on a course for, say, after Easter say. It will help you gain confidence and get out and meet others. Did you ever follow up on the college or community based ones, seem to recall a timing issue though, and one for May .

allgonebellyup · 02/03/2008 16:29

nutty if its any help i feel exactly the same as you, didnt ever imagine i would feel like this. or be single this long.

YouTellMe · 05/03/2008 18:16

Just a little update, cos i promised i would (tis me with a namechange).

Have had another couple of messages from him, and isn't actually single afterall, he has recently started seeing someone, after being single for a year. Nevermind

LIZS · 05/03/2008 18:34

Was wondering where you were. I suppose at least you know sooner rather than later. Find something to focus on achieving (decoratin g, look into college for later in year perhaps) and distract yourself. Something/one good will come along .

YouTellMe · 05/03/2008 19:42

Tbh Liz I am not interested in sorting anything out anymore, blokes, nobs, courses etc. I never seem to get any of it right.

I know so many people who don't try do get a job and one falls into their lap, same with blokes etc. I try my hardest to get a job and get knocked back at every turn, I am not up to that anymore.

YouTellMe · 05/03/2008 20:04

LOL what a typo, I meant jobs not nobs.

lou33 · 05/03/2008 22:19

are you sure you meant jobs?

PurpleOne · 06/03/2008 00:07

lol at jobs nobs