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If there is any justice in the world...............

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nutcracker · 28/02/2008 18:26

The guy from school that I was madly in love with when I was eleven, and who has accepted my friend request on facebook, and sent me a message, will now fall madly in love with me.

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lou33 · 29/02/2008 20:31

you think too much

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nutcracker · 29/02/2008 20:33

Lol I do, you're right.

Ok, will add his addy and see what happens.

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lou33 · 29/02/2008 20:34

yay!

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nutcracker · 29/02/2008 20:38

Done

Kinda hoping he never ever ever signs into msn again now lol. Nah not really.

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lou33 · 29/02/2008 20:44

you arent asking to marry him, it's only chat

Aimsmum · 29/02/2008 20:46

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nutcracker · 29/02/2008 20:47

LOL, I know, but I haven't 'chatted' to blokes for about 12 years LOL.

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nutcracker · 29/02/2008 20:48

I will crap myself if eh does Aimsmum. Mind you, I have had a drink, which would help the chat flow.

Hmm might have to keep a bottle in every night now just incase I need to chat LOL.

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lou33 · 29/02/2008 20:51

you just chat

like now

banter, nothing to be worried about

Aimsmum · 29/02/2008 21:45

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lou33 · 01/03/2008 01:26

nothing wrong with chat

lou33 · 01/03/2008 21:20

any news nutty?

ladytophamhatt · 01/03/2008 21:25

ohhhh, how did I miss tho sone??

I need an update nutty. come on....update us, NOW!

ladytophamhatt · 01/03/2008 21:26

tho sone = this one.

davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:27

ooh chat is good start chatting, go for a drink, see how it panns out - talk to a few at a time....

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:31

Nah it won't get that far. I think he is one of these that adds as many girls to his profile as poss.

I know I am being negatvie again, sorry. Not in a great modd tonight, feeling really low and fed up.

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davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:34

you don't know that nutty - give it a day or two, and drop him an email. just keep it light - hi how are you, good weekend type of thing.

as lou says you'#re not asking to marry him. so at the mo don't know what's going to happen.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:37

No i know,I just don't think I'm up to it at the mo tbh. I want it too much. Not him, a relationship in general.

It all feels like it will never ever happen with anyone. I am really struggling to see how i ended up here. I don't think alot of myself, I really don't, but if someone had told me 2 years ago that i'd still be single now, not even a hint of anything, i'd have thought they were lying.

I just can't do it anymore, I am so lonely it actually hurts. It feels easier to think I will always be this way, than to hope I won't.

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lou33 · 01/03/2008 21:46

you wont always be this way

but i think it better to be lonely and single than lonely in a relationship

davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:48

it will do - I have to hold to the hope that it will happen for us all one day.

are you getting out at all more in your local area/tlaking to people over the internet at least (men I mean - sometimes it's good to have a male 'pen friend' as my mum likes to call them still) - nothing in it at all, just to chat to - so you can practice your chatting/flirting.

i'm sure there's a lovely man out there who's waiting for you to find him, I don't believe you'll be single long term. maybe getting out and about meeting people might help with your confidence as well.

how did you get on with the internet dating? also on FB have you added the 'are you interested' application? i've had 2 nice men contact me through there - have actually met one, but I figure it's free, and also it's been nice to chat to them on a ngiht even thou I knwo nothing will come of it.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:49

I dunno anymore Lou. I used to think so too.

I have never hated anything more than I hate being single.

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davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:50

second what lou says - from jan 07-sept 07 I was lonely in a marriage, and my god I never want to feel that alone again.

was thinking the other day actually about getting out and about - and apparently myspace.com has various local groups or something on there and is a good way to meet people- not sure how it works out thou?

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:52

I still dont get out at all no. It is just impossible really. Xp still isn't having the kids overnight, and I won't let him babysit them here.

My mum is always offering to babysit but I have no one to go out with.

I am going on my friends hen weekend in a few weeks so thats something I suppose.

Have tried internet dating but it doesn't work for me. Any blokes I contact never reply, or they do but haven't read my profile, so as soon as I mention my kids I never hear from them again.

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nutcracker · 01/03/2008 21:53

Tbh my confidence has got so low I have trouble going out for anything, never mind to meet new people.

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davidtennantsmistress · 01/03/2008 21:55

perhaps, (if I might suggest and don't hate me) but rather than going out to meet people or to meet a man or to meet someone for a meaning ful relationship, at the minute you work on loving you and getting that confidence back up again.

also fwiw, ANY man who doesn't contact you after you say you have 3 children is clearly not worth a jot, so isn't worth worrying about.