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[fransmom]

dd has been with xp overnight, during which time he has refused to answer my calls and it is left to his father to answer or dd is answering (she is 2.10 btw). to cut long story short, xp is now looking for houses to rent (or so he says) and i have said that i don't want dd to go with him as i don't think it is fair on her traipsing round houses all day. i also didn't want her to go because his newgf may or may not be going and i ddin't want dd confuised. only now, at 9 this morning he has sent a text saying he has taken her to view a house (in a genteel seaside resort)about an hours drive away. he has therefore gone against my wishes, i have been in contact with my sol's secretary but don't know what else to do. i have visions now of him tkaing her away and not bringing her back

It's something Mongolians tend to live in Gilly. It's a large tent-type thing with wooden woven walls for the sides.

course you all invited. lostdad are you luuurrrrrrking?

Not at all...I can't roll my `r's like that...

jsut realised i can hijack my own thread

Same , different day. My ex sniping at my care of our son via the communication book that comes with him, proving I'm a `bad' parent.

I'm getting used to it by now...

dd's dad was the same. he was trying so hard to make me jealous with tales of what he was up to with his new gf (bless him) and i just didn't let it bother me.> i realised it was jealousy on his part because i had seen someone else - although it didn't last cos of xp being prat and hassling.

hope your son ok

OMG a communication book what a fab idea! Sorry lostdad but am in awe of her ingenious plan to make life hard for you!

Everyone is invited to the yurt. The thread can be found here but we are an odd bunch! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1600/333674?ts=1204563703851

speak for yourself gf

we are luverly really..........
mwahahah

ps he now wants to go to court to sort out access when it wa shis idea in the first palce to arrange it like it has been, now because he wants to change iot so it is more to his advantage flexible

I've not actually got a problem with the communication book. Just stupid comments in it.

Of course, it would be nice for her to actually talk to me face to face so we can discuss like adults our son's best interests and work together in his best interests because that means there is less chance of misunderstanding and upset for both of us, but I can't make her do that.

I guess though at least she does communicate in some way!
You are right it would be good if we could all work together for the sake of our kids but unfortunately its all too often not like that.

i wish xp was like in you, lostdad, in wanting to communicate for the sake of dd. h ejust tells me when he wants to have dd and expects us to be ok with it. the original access arrangments were suggested by him int he first place and i thought right ok, lets see how longit lasts. not long was it? he is due to look after dd on his birthday and his mates want to take him out. he hjas said that he will go out. now to me that is putting dd second, on my birthday i wanted to go out but i had dd so i dind't. i know that might sound as though iabu but i put dd first and he isn't. i can't seem to get it through to him that's what he's doing by rearranging things to suit him all the time.

TBH I think you will have to accept that is what he is like and learn to live around it fransmom.

Perhaps you should expect the worst and be pleasantly surprised when it doesn't happen. It is his choice whether or not he puts his daughter first and prefers to go out with his mates. More fool him but ultimately it is his life to spoil and his relationship to spoil. Worrying about it wont stop him and will make you ill.

My x is a complete waste of space and a violent one to boot and when he behaves well it is great we all celebrate. The rest of the time we just say oh thats .....!