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can I join you......going to be a lone parent within the next 2 months or so......

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 22:41

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chocolatespiders · 25/02/2008 22:43

you will be warmly welcomed here...

sorry to here you are going to be a lone parent...
was it your thread i saw at the weekend about deciding wheather to split or not>?

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 22:46

possibly - there's been a few of those threads around this last weekend I think.

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:23

FAQ, i read your previous thread sorry i didnt reply just didnt know what to say. I am sorry to hear about your situation and that your husband couldnt meet a comprimise. Wishing you all the best, virtual hugs

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:23

thanks shelley

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kama · 25/02/2008 23:25

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:29

its no problem at all, weve all split up from dc's dad for 1 reason or another. We all need the support though just wish i had known about MN then. helps if its from people away from the situation aswell.

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:30

I know I guess I'm lucky that I already know about MN

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Aimsmum · 25/02/2008 23:32

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:33

Yes I'm going to organise that tomorrow Aims - thankfully local job centre is literally just the other side of the park (which is on the other side of the very small school which the house backs onto) so not a mammoth trek for me to sort it out.

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:37

The sooner you get the ball rolling on that stuff the better. Glad you dont have too far to go. Well help you as much as we can.

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:40

I think once I know what/how much I'm entitled to once we've actually split up I'll feel a bit more "comfortable" about it.

I know I'm going to have the money to put a deposit/pay first month or 2's rent on a house/flat for the DS's and I (am not staying in the family home.......all manor of reasons including not wanting to stay here and also not being able to afford to stay here) and also enough to get some basic, essential stuff together - it's just what I'll actually have to live on after that I'm concerned about!

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:45

Find out if theres a furniture project near you and join freecyle. It might not be what you want exactly but you can pick furniture etc up cheep from a project and for nothing on freecycle just have to collect it. If nothing else its a start.

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:48

I joined my local freecycle ages ago.

Also have a great auction place in town that sells stuff VERY cheap (and the stuff I like - furniture wise - goes very cheaply as it's not "fashionable" - got a friend who is a regular at the auctions who offered to help me out last year........when we nearly split up....and I'm sure she'll still be willing).

I don't care what the stuff looks like as long as it works/does the job

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:53

Thats the best attitude. Way i see it to, i recently got 2 matching light shades from furniture project nothing wrong with them at all. Thought i got a great bargain. hehe Make sure your friend is still willing, theres plenty of bargains about if you look for them. New home new furniture new start FAQ!!

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FAQ · 25/02/2008 23:53

well I suppose I'd better start getting used to going to bed at a reasonable hour if I'm going to be on my own.........so am off to sleep. Thanks for your help so far

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shelleylou · 25/02/2008 23:54

its not a problem just hope i helped you a bit. Just noticed the time i better be off to bed too. Night

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 11:07

would a house on the next street be too close to be living to H when we split - 2 or 3 houses for rent on it.......

Also just called to make an appointment with the Lone Parent advisor.......but they can't do that (apparently) until my circumstances have actually changed and I'm claiming benefits

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Aimsmum · 26/02/2008 12:17

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 12:20

well I'm not a lone parent yet - so my circumstances haven't changed apparently.....

With regards to the house H is planning to stay here in the immediate future (he's thinking of getting a lodger into the spare room - or him moving into the spare room and letting out the big front bedroom). I'm going to have to walk past this house EVERY school day and every Sunday too - this house is next door to DS1's school (soon to become DS2's school too), and almost directly opposite the church I play at/we attend.....so I'm not going to be able to get away from the fact that the DS's (and I) are going to walk past the family home on a very regular basis.

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 13:00

Mind you there's one thing less I'll need to beg/borrow/steal when I move - my lovely new shiny Dyson arrived this morning

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nailpolish · 26/02/2008 13:06

FAQ sorry to read this. you have so much to sort out, take your time. im glad you have mn to chat on

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 13:08

thanks NP.

I have to ask you something though........are you REALLY 35????

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nailpolish · 26/02/2008 13:08

i will be 35 in april

er, why?

di dyou get home ok?

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 13:10

it's just we were talking about how old we were in Ryan's and you said you were (nearly) 35.......thing is both of us were quite tipsy by then and I didn't believe you - and still didn't - was thinking about it as I was making DS2's lunch just now and wondering if you were pulling my leg.....I thought you were younger than me (not that I'm young or anything but you know what I mean).

Yes got home ok thanks

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