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Ex coming to see kids?

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SpinningFloppa · 12/03/2023 23:37

Does anyone else have an ex that comes to their house to see the kids? My ex came the other day but he went through all my rooms including mine even when I told him not to, he also went in my fridge and cupboards and into my dining room. I ordered the kids some food and I didn’t get myself any (or him) so he asked me what I was having and I said I had some pasta in the fridge but didn’t feel like it so wasn’t going to have it. Next thing I know he has gone into my fridge asking me “what kind of pasta is that?!” I don’t even go into my mums fridge or cupboard when I go to her house and I don’t go upstairs or into any rooms unless told to! Is this normal? Just felt way over stepping I wouldn’t go to a friends house and walk around or check any rooms they hadn’t invited me in.

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SuperSange · 13/03/2023 17:05

But once a year isn't better than nothing, is it!! It's worse. Can't you see that?

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SpinningFloppa · 13/03/2023 17:10

On my other thread I was told it was better than nothing. Once twice a year is apparently better than no contact at all. If I wanted him back I would be happy he was going into my room and making himself at home. I don’t want him but if I don’t allow him here he won’t see them, you think he would see them if I didn’t? It would force him to? No it won’t as he’s just gone 2 years without seeing them because I stopped allowing him into my home 2 years ago because he kept trying it on with me. I actually wanted him to take them and have them on his own but after the last two times he’s seen them (only twice in 2 years) I don’t trust him alone with them, he doesn’t care for them properly and wouldn’t if he was to have them alone. But it’s better than never knowing their father.

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AlmostaMamma · 13/03/2023 17:22

SpinningFloppa · 13/03/2023 17:10

On my other thread I was told it was better than nothing. Once twice a year is apparently better than no contact at all. If I wanted him back I would be happy he was going into my room and making himself at home. I don’t want him but if I don’t allow him here he won’t see them, you think he would see them if I didn’t? It would force him to? No it won’t as he’s just gone 2 years without seeing them because I stopped allowing him into my home 2 years ago because he kept trying it on with me. I actually wanted him to take them and have them on his own but after the last two times he’s seen them (only twice in 2 years) I don’t trust him alone with them, he doesn’t care for them properly and wouldn’t if he was to have them alone. But it’s better than never knowing their father.

On my other thread I was told it was better than nothing. Once twice a year is apparently better than no contact at all

The majority of people on this and your many many other threads have said the exact opposite. I’ve literally linked some of them. Over and over again, you’ve been told to stand up for yourself and stop putting up with this. You just don’t want to acknowledge this for some reason.

he doesn’t care for them properly and wouldn’t if he was to have them alone

And this is the person they benefit from spending time with?

But it’s better than never knowing their father.

They do know their father. You’re not going to magically wipe him from their memories. You aren’t cutting off their means of contact (up until recently, he only texted them, anyway). And if he’s a deadbeat who doesn’t make any effort to see them, then that’s who he is.

Seriously, what’s going on with you? If you don’t want advice (and you clearly don’t) why do you keep asking for it?

AlmostaMamma · 13/03/2023 17:29

SuperSange · 13/03/2023 17:05

But once a year isn't better than nothing, is it!! It's worse. Can't you see that?

Nope. 100 people can tell her this, but as a couple of people on one of her dozens of threads said it was better than nothing, it must be better than nothing.

She posted herself how much this man is upsetting her autistic DD, but it’s better than nothing.

Very seldom do posters actually make me want to scream.

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