Toxic mother with my baby

[Zamummy]

Hello everyone, I am currently 22 weeks pregnant and staying with my mum temporarily with my 14 months of boy. I've been staying with her and my 3 grown siblings because my pregnancy has been hard and I needed help with my son. They are all highly toxic and judgmental in my opinion. I will be moving back to my own flat in a few weeks and she offered to leave my son with her to look after. I feel like taking my son with me even though it will be hard doing everything by myself. However, when I think about things they say I get a bit angry sometimes. Things like " you are always on your phone and don't play with your son" or " that my son is eating too much" and they all close their rooms when my son is walking towards their rooms.
Ps. Siblings ages are: brother 33, sister 22 and brother 19

The expression toxic is so overused. Op family sound maybe a little critical. Having a toddler staying is bound to increase tension levels in a home with four grown up children. It sounds like mum is offering practical support. But maybe op just wants some more emotional back up.

Try and flex a little and work with your siblings.

I don’t think this post is real, suspect we are being played people!

It must be frustrating for them that you seem to be struggling with your toddler yet you are having another baby. Take your dc and parent them. We all have to manage with our choices op.

Where is the father?

If someone posts in the Lone Parents topic, why would you comment asking where the father is? A lot of people on here really do act entitled and think they need to know every single part of a posters life in order to comment

The OP has a child and another on the way. It's a safe bet to assume there is a man involved somehow (although I understand why in some circumstances there may not be). Loads of loan parents have an ex who assumes some care of the children. It's just a question to clarify matters.

Thank you everyone for the comments! More information about me.. I am 30 years old and the father of my children lives in another country. I was dizzy most of the time or fainting which is not ideal with a child by myself at home and that's why I am staying with my mum. My mum is begging me to live my child with her, because she loves taking care of him. But, if I live him with her, she will tell people " I want it easy" that's why I left him. She is always on peoples business and I just had enough.

You need to get up when your son dies and stop being on your phone. They don't sound toxic, they sound fed up their parenting your child while you laze about.

*DOES not dies. Ffs mumsnet make a edit button!

But you do want it easy, you leave her to look after him for 5 hours every morning while you sleep.

They are not being that supportive. I bath my child, give him food, change his nappies and do food shopping for him ect... only my mom helps! The only help I get is in the morning when he wakes up at 7am she takes care of him till 12 so that I can sleep“

You don’t seem to realise that most people do these things for their children. It’s called being a parent.

You got me worried there lol

So? Go home then. Parent your kid. Do not give your child away. Obviously.
Will the father not be parenting? How come he keeps getting you pregnant?

I said that because some people assume here that I don't do much. In my culture family members are expected to help with children. My mum has 6 kids and every time she was done breastfeeding her kids at the age of 2. She send them to her sister or mother.

I don't want to give my child. I have posted a lot about my situation and you need to read it to understand.

Your adult siblings are closing the doors to their rooms because their rooms are not safe for any toddler to be in. Also they may already be aware that your toddler tries to play with things in their rooms that could cause him serious injury or death.

It isn't up to your siblings to baby and toddler proof their own bedrooms because it is their own individual living space.

I say this as a parent and someone who is an aunt many times over.

That’s great, then you don’t need to enter in to a discussion with your relatives about them raising your kid for you. Sorted. The search function doesn’t work for me, if you’re suggesting I go trawling through your old posts? But sounds like you might need to sort lone parent support and childcare rather than the theatrics of relatives.

I help with family members children but it didn't mean when I lived at home between 11-21 that young children were welcome in my bedroom.

I totally understand the room closing thing. I just don't like the way they do it. Slamming the door behind him and yelling at him to go away. My siblings shouldn't be living with my mum still. My 33 year old brother has his own place and never stays there

Your siblings have as much right to live with your mum as you do.

…but you’re 30 and have your own place, and stay at your mothers house? What’s the difference?

I’m out, this makes zero sense.

But you’re 30 and have come back home with your kids?
so why can’t your siblings come back home?

But your 30 and living back at home? None of this makes any sense.

Why the heck did you have another child if you can't be bothered with the one you do have and make out it's such a chore to actually parent? I'm actually baffled.

You are slobbing in bed until lunchtime? Why aren’t you working to provide for your own kid?
and put your phone away when the child is around. Use it in your lunch hour, if you can be bothered getting up for work.

Read my posts, please!