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My mum will be finally meeting my new man tomorrow!

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Pinkchampagne · 22/01/2008 21:34

She has agreed to baby sit for a few hours while I go with him to see his mum in hospital (she has had a knee replacement) as he has told her he would bring me along with him.
Mum wants to come round to my house rather than have boys overnight, so I said that I would probably invite him in when we get back, and would she be prepared to say hello to him.
She was very "Hmmm" at first, but has now said ok, so long as I don't tell anyone. She is obviously worried about dad or ex H finding out she has met him.
I guess this is slight progress though.

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BIWI · 22/01/2008 21:38

Progress indeed, PC! Hope it goes well!

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Pinkchampagne · 22/01/2008 21:40

It will only be a brief meeting, but at least she has agreed to it. Just last week she told me she didn't want to meet him. Her reponses make me feel she is more worried about my dad's reaction than anything else though.

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Pinkchampagne · 22/01/2008 22:17

I would like her to see how lovely he is & maybe accept things a little more, but I think their relationship with ex H will get in the way of that happening just yet.

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pinkbubble · 22/01/2008 22:42

Oh PC I am so pleased for you! I acn see why your Mum is worried, hope all works out for you! I am sure your NM will soon win her over!

pinkbubble · 22/01/2008 22:43

And may even become the "GOLDEN BOY" in time!!!! (but I didnt say that!) {shhhhh}

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Pinkchampagne · 22/01/2008 22:58

Think that may take some time, PB! He isn't that mad on decorating for starters!

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Pinkchampagne · 23/01/2008 12:26

Going to meet his mum in a bit, and am a bit nervous!

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 08:11

It went ok I think. His parents seem lovely, and my mum said hello & had a short conversation with him. She was paranoid about being home before dad got back from band.

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 17:18

Mum has just come round to see the boys, so I asked her what she thought of him.
She said "Seems alright I suppose...better than the things you used to bring home but he's a bit sporty for you"
He plays cricket & golf and goes skiing, while I am not sporty at all, but can't see that would cause a problem in our relationship. We get on really well & he is the most genuine, lovely guy. I really didn't think she would be able to knock him, so feel a bit deflted by her response. I know I shouldn't expect anymore though.

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ZippiBabes · 24/01/2008 17:22

well i guess she has to try and cling to some moany opinion..

your parents are so depressing pc

he sounds lovely

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 17:26

I actually feel a bit upset & I know I shouldn't. I kind of hoped she would meet him, and on seeing what a lovely bloke he was, realise that I had done well for myself & be more positive. I know that was a silly thing to think though.

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hertsnessex · 24/01/2008 17:28

im sure he is great PC, dont worry, you know your mums responses are anything but fair.....

hope it all goes really well for you and him.

CarGirl · 24/01/2008 17:33

if "he's a sporty" is the best she can up with I think she does think he's ace!

ladytophamhatt · 24/01/2008 17:34

Oh PC, when i saw this title I really REALLY hoped that it would be you.

Its a really big thing for your mum and your new relationship isn't it?
I hope it gies well, even if it is going to be brief

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 17:42

It's happened already LTH, she met him last night!
I just felt she was still trying to appear negative, although there was little she could be negative about.
It was like she was saying we couldn't work because he was too sporty for me, but I said that he did his sports with his friends & I didn't really have to be involved.
It was the "Whatever" tone of voice she used. I guess I was just hoping for more, but that was silly of me.

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 17:44

Everyone else I have introduced him to have been so impressed with him, and I was hoping my mum would be the same.

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Freckle · 24/01/2008 17:45

Well, blimey if that's all she can come up with, she must be really frustrated .

You don't have to be sporty to go out with a sporty person. You may be expected (or may even want) to go along and support him when playing and he can introduce your boys to sports and help them too. Perfect.

ZippiBabes · 24/01/2008 17:46

she is stubborn tho isn't she

hazygirl · 24/01/2008 17:46

im realy pleased for you pc ,she will hopefully get to know him x

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 18:12

I guess you're right there, Freckle!
I don't mind going to watch him play his cricket or whatever, if at some point he wanted me to. It is better than having the football on the TV all the time, which is what I had to suffer with ex H! New man isn't a football fan.
I wouldn't stop him going on his skiing holidays either...just not sure he would get me on skis! I would break something for sure!!

Zippi - yes, she is very stubborn, and I guess she isn't going to allow herself to like him easily because they feel they have some big loyalty to ex H.

I was just kind of hoping that once she met him & saw how lovely he was, he would win her over & she would realise he was the lovliest bloke I had ever met, then would work on my dad. That is just fantasy though isn't it?!

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 18:17

He is a very good looking bloke, and when I asked her what she thought of him, she said "Ugly isn't he?" That must have been her little joke though. Nobody could describe him as unattractive.

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ladytophamhatt · 24/01/2008 18:35

Oh bum, that serves me right fo rnot reading the whole thread.

can't believe her "ugly" comment, I'm sure it was a joke but regardless of that what a odd thing to say to your daughter about her new partner.

And as for the sporty thing, DH goes to teh gym every day virtually, has 2 Kyaks(soon to be 3..I think they're all called kyaks anyway..small boat things that go in the sea that you sit on or in and paddle...one might be a canoe), goes fishing at every opportunity during the summer(and winter sometimes), goes out running, plays football with a work 5-a-side team blah blah blah and I ummmmm....don't do any of those thing.
He often talks about when I'm going to be using the Kyak/canoe in the summer and the thought makes me feel ill.
The sea is cold for a start and secondly I'd have to wear a wetsuit....Thens there the thing about drowning.

ANyway you get the idea.
DH is sportacus in disguise where as I'm more like Robbie Rotten...but without the chin

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 21:06

Lol, there is hope for us then?!

My mum has wound me up again tonight. Asked her if she would be able to hang on to the boys on the Sunday we get back from Rome if necessary, as ex H has to leave for a course at 2pm, and I just wanted to know someone would hold onto boys if we didn't quite make it back from airport in time. I asked her as soon as I found out about our possible weekend away, and told her there was a good chance I would be back so it wouldn't be too much for her.
She has text today to say "Can't do the 17th" as she has now arranged to go out with my sister.
She couldn't leave that 1 day free, and I am feeling pretty wound up. I don't ask her to have the boys much at all.

Think I'm feeling a bit hormonal today as everything is getting to me!

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Pinkchampagne · 24/01/2008 22:31

Ex H has said he can leave later for the course if needed, so he is being quite reasonable. He knows I am going to Rome with new man too!
NM said he hoped it wasn't because mum didn't approve of him that she was suddenly unable to help.

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