My mum will be finally meeting my new man tomorrow!

[Pinkchampagne]

She has agreed to baby sit for a few hours while I go with him to see his mum in hospital (she has had a knee replacement) as he has told her he would bring me along with him.
Mum wants to come round to my house rather than have boys overnight, so I said that I would probably invite him in when we get back, and would she be prepared to say hello to him.
She was very "Hmmm" at first, but has now said ok, so long as I don't tell anyone. She is obviously worried about dad or ex H finding out she has met him.
I guess this is slight progress though.

oh PC, please dont worry, everything will work out. enjoy your weekend away!!!

Thanks, I am trying not to let it all get to me. I felt pretty fed up yesterday, but less so today. She was never going to be that positive was she?
I won't ask anymore favours from her for now. I don't need anything from her. I can rely on my good friends, but I shouldn't expect much from my parents.
I am trying to shrug it all off today, and like Freckle & cargirl say, if all she could come up with was that he was too sporty, then he must have come across ok!

I don't think either of your parents will ever give you the approval you want. Your Dad will never accept that you have the basic human right of not being controlled & bullied and your Mum can't support you standing up for yourself otherwise she will look bad that she never did. Well that's my anaylsis!

think cargirl has it spot on. and i think your mum is secretly pleased for you - but cant say it for the reasons cargirl says.

To be honest based on what you've said about her responses in the past I'd almost be worried if your Mum did like your lovely new man!

She is deliberately trying to get to you- best thing you can do is laugh things off as much as you can.....and then bang a few saucepans around to get rid of the inevitable feelings of frustration

oh good luck pc, i hope this is the start of a thaw

it would have helped if i had read more than hte op i guess

still maybe a thaw is looming

"She was never going to be that positive was she? "

Nope - 'fraid she wasn't PC.

She was always going to be grudging and use it as a way to put you down - about being sporty etc.

BUT that's her mean grudging way - in fact, on the scale of your mother's appraoch to the whole thing it probably represents something half way approaching positive, iyswim. Even the fact that she agreed to meet him. She probably felt a need to run him down in a back-handed kind of way because she couldn't concede that she had been wrong in refusing to meet him. Admiration would have been a step too far.

Grrr at her attitude to your return from Rome though - surely your sister would have understood? She's probbly doin it deliberately, to sort of 'even things out' in her loyalty to exH.

I think it'll take at least a lion, a witch and a wardrobe to entice a thaw where PC's parents are concerned Lou!

Lol at the "lion, witch and wardrobe" comment!

I know you're all right. I just had this silly moment of thinking that once she met him, she would see how lovely he was & be pleased for me.

I met his parents for the first time the same day, and he told me last night that they both thought I was lovely, and said as long as he was happy, then they were happy. What a difference between the two parents!

He asked what my mum thought of him & I didn't know what to say.
I just said "She thinks you are better than some of my past boyfriends, which for her is a compliment."
I picked the most positive thing out that I could, then said "Who wouldn't approve of you?"

This arrangement with my sister on the day I return from Rome, could have been easily arranged for another time.
My sister is swapping jobs around that time, and has 2 weeks off work.
Mum mentioned my sister wanting to take her out somewhere during this time, but rather than say "Most days are fine, but I might have to have the boys on the Sunday", she went ahead & arranged something on that very day.

I needed someone to take the boys for a few hours on the Friday as ex H didn't get home from work until 2.45pm, and boys are off school that day. I asked my friend if she could help out here, and she has kindly offered to have them overnight on the Thursday too. (Thank you, pinkbubble!)
I didn't want to ask her for another favour as she does so much for me, so asked mum if she could step in on the Sunday, just incase we were not back from the airport before ex H had to leave for his course.
I asked her weeks ago, and she text me on Thursday (just after meeting him) to tell me she had couldn't have them, which annoyed me a bit.

Oh she's just making a totally pathetic point, PC. She just can't bring herself to accept that NM is lovely, so she's scoring petty points.

You deserve so much better.

Spot on, Freckle!