Should i keep my big 3 bed house that ex-dh half owns or sell up any buy a flat with my OWN money?

[allgonebellyup]

Ex left in April, we live in a large 3 bed Victorian house, was originally thinking of moving to a similar house but in quieter road with bigger garden. Ex's name is on the mortgage so he owns half, and he pays the mortgage for us every month.
Should i sell up and move us to a small 2 bed flat (i have 2 dc)with the cash left from the sale, thus having independence from him?

i cant decide, if we live in a flat we will have no garden and the dc (girl and boy) will have to share a room for years. Or find 2 bed flat with one huge bedroom so it can be split in two?

Opinions please. im not over my ex and finding it v hard to move on...

allgone here's my dp details PC pointed me in this direction here hope he can help

Sorry to disagree with many here, but I would sell. It wont be perfect to have little space, but it will b your family space, you wont be left financially screwed when your ex stops paying mortgage, it gives your family security, and you can work on progressing from a flat to a house.

AND, fwiw, you can get a flat with a garden. I live in a first floor flat in a two storey converted victorian terraced house, it has loft space for conversion when I can afford it, and it has outside garden which belongs to this flat, not the flat downstairs. Its not huge but its space that is ours, and there is a park at the end of the road.

I am lucky with neighbours, have great neighbours either side and lady downstairs is old and deaf, only problem is sometimes her tv is very loud! However, even with a house you are never guaranteed good neighbours, you always take a chance.

Life is not perfect, but its better to make your own decisions that you control that wait for the decisions to be made for you, when you might not be ready, or in a position to dealwith them.

Good luck