Is it a waste of time chasing child support?

[Whatwouldscullydo]

So ex had been up until recently reliable with weekly payments. Except a few weeks ago started with health issues that resulted in hospital stays and getting arsey with me for asking questions relating to the organisation of sorting out the kids which incidentally also cost me work but without the luxury of being able to drop providing for my kids as an.optional bill

Luckily the kids are older ( 11 and 15 )so leaving them for relatively short shifts in the week wasn't too much of a problem although the teenager was left to pick up the slack and baby sit her younger sister for me.

I still lost out on my longer shift on Sundays a couple of times as I didn't want to leave dd1 taking care of dd2 for the whole day including until late. And grand parents bailed me out too on a couple of occasions.

Note I sorted this and dd1 took the hit when realky as he was meant to be having them and doing their dinner it would not have killed him.to Try and arrange something.

Anyway he missed 3 weeks worth of payments which I'm really pissed about because well the kids aren't optional and he not only didn't have them or feed them for nearly 3 weeks he didn't pay for them either .

I know he couldn't help being sick but then he'd not have given up work to take them.if I'd have been.sick that probably would have been.down to my parents and I'm.just supposed to jusy say nothing.

I dont want a fight so I'm.just wondering if its worth even going there or just hope that now I got a payment ( 1 weeks worth not any back.pay) i keep my mouth shut,.and hope that's the end of it.

Anyone with any experience of this?

If he's self employed no do not rock the boat with a CMS claim. You will be in a worse off position

I clearly didn't read that properly! All you can do is ask but I probably wouldn't.

I wasn't planning on getting all.official anyway.

I just wasn't sure how best to approach trying to talk to him.

Hes not the easiest person to communicate with which was one of the issues. He had potential to either be entirely reasonable or get moody/arsey and u never know ew what you were gonna get so I just kept ny mouth shut most the time.

Not wanting to rock the boat allowed him to get away with alot of things over the years

@MissMaple82

If he's self employed no do not rock the boat with a CMS claim. You will be in a worse off position

Why do you think this?

I’m curious as my ex is self employed/ runs a business but hasnt paid any maintenance in 2 years. So looking at my options and one was cms. Is it pointless?

That sucks rumm that must be a real struggle.

To set the record straight about "how I feel about him" I'd like to point out I was entirely reasonable at first. Cheerful, chatty, allowed him to over come the "issue" of not being able to look after the kids at his ( shared house with people who turned iut to be absolutely fine with the kids being there) by letting him stay here including eating the food I'd prepared for the kids dinners while I was at work) it was all fine.

Then he got his own.place made a big deal.about having them over night , but not Saturday night which would have worked out better as dd2 could be dropped off after gym and then they would already be there when I was working Sunday. Instead it would have to be Friday night with and an early pick.up if he was working.

After telling the kids I was being difficult ( I.merely suggested that Saturday afternoon/ night would be better so they could actually spend some time.with him ) he's had them.over night a grand total of 2/3 times that's it. All.that fuss for nothing.

They also come back telling me he's been swearing at them and moaning about me . And telling them lies about everything.

Hes not some poor run down guy who's being given the run around