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Not brought her home

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redlollies · 24/02/2022 21:36

I split with my ex partner before Christmas. He had been having a lot of mental health issues and decided moving out was best. He is unemployed and had no where to go but a friend had kindly let him stay at a property they have spare. It is only partially furnished so he has an air bed and has moved his things there.

We agreed before he left DD5 would stay with me as he had no stability. I worked out a contact schedule which split morning school drop offs after school and weekends and shared it with him. He had no comments on it but mostly went along with it. He has continually sought to take more time with her though, dropping in unannounced, stating he will take certain times that are not his and now tonight he has not brought her home after her visit and has put her to sleep there. I am really trying to stay calm about it but I am so distraught about it.

Despite the awful circumstances I am not averse to him having her overnight just not without warning and not on school nights. He barely speaks to me and is clearly very angry with me and so seems unable to communicate properly. But he has no idea what his instability and inconsistency does to her. He has not once asked how she has been since he left.

Can anyone advise me on what I can do? I don't want to have to go the route of solicitors etc as that will escalate things further but I just cannot trust him at the moment to do what is best for her. Please help.

LivMumsnet · 24/02/2022 22:02

Hi there, @redlollies - we've now moved your thread to Lone Parents, as requested, and we hope you get some advice and support here. Flowers

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