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SINGLE MOTHERS OF THE WORLD UNITE

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Vincenza · 18/12/2007 21:45

Ladies

I am tired of hearing about Bob Geldof bang on about fathers rights (don't get me started about him).

I am tired about hearing about fathers for justice

I am tired of bringing a child up on my own and being thankful that I get £200 a month aside from the fact that I work and my lchildcare costs are way and over above that.

Following on from the above fact I feel dreadful that I know there are many women on here who don't even get the priviledge of £200.

I am tired of being slagged off by the daily mail/ society when we are bringing up the next generation.

My point is..... I need you LADIES. I feel so strongly that we are not represented in society when we are doing all the BLOODY work. When my son was little I could do nothing because he did not sleep for more than 3 hours a night but now I am ready and I am ready to take on our cause.

All I need to know is................

ARE YOU WITH ME LADDDDIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIEEESSSSS

Vanessa

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Alambil · 20/12/2007 11:21

In those situations it is perfectly understandable that he SHOULD fight.

My issue with Mr Bob is that the pigs that do not CARE about the kids and just want control over our lives are the ones darkening the doors of FFJ and pulling all these ridiculous stunts.

Genuine, caring dads who ARE being badly treated (because there are some) are the ones being overlooked by the prats of FFJ with NO case apart from to annoy the mothers.

I feel for your DS - hope he gets to see his dd soon

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 20/12/2007 11:23

I'm in, if you'll have me

micci25 · 20/12/2007 11:30

i hate all that fathers rights stuff! my dp left me before i had my dd1 and told me in no uncertain terms that we would have nothing more to do with either of us! i have never recieved a penny of csa payments from him despite many complaints and i never wished to bring up my child without her knowing who her father was or having any contact with him!

all i wanted was his name on the birth certificate and for her to have some contact with him but what were my rights?

luckily i met new dp and she has a great dad who she loves very much so am not technically a single mother anymore but i am still with you if you will have me?

citylover · 20/12/2007 11:31

Yes I agree that we need some type of pressure group to represent us and address the bad PR that single mothers get.

It seems to me that single parents are scapegoated for alot of society's ills and it's about time we fought back. Although I would not like to see a really militant group like fathers for justice as this would alienate people. We would have to be a bit more clever than that!

I always thought fathers for justice were an odd bunch. And I think when investigated further alot of those that had joined had rather chequered pasts.

citylover · 20/12/2007 11:31

Yes I agree that we need some type of pressure group to represent us and address the bad PR that single mothers get.

I always thought fathers for justice were an odd bunch. And I think when investigated further alot of those that had joined had rather chequered pasts.

PersephoneSnowballSnape · 20/12/2007 12:06

me too - working mum to three, very occasional grudging maintenance from non working ex partner, my kids are all doing very well at school, I'm a goddam poster girl for single parenthood!

NotDoingTheHousework · 20/12/2007 13:33

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neva · 21/12/2007 07:30

bump

mrsmcv · 21/12/2007 13:03

I'm in. Would like to see family court more accountable and transparent. People who have not experienced it would not believe what goes on there.

neva · 21/12/2007 22:40

There are loads of issues. Trouble is most of us don't have the time to campaign as we are too busy doing the 24 hour per day job that is motherhood, and contrary to popular belief lots of us work outside the home too. But we need to do something otherwise we will be stuck with all the problems.

4sonsmum · 21/12/2007 22:47

Me too please - not had a bloody penny from my 4 sons dad in 8 years - work hard and do all the hard bits alone -(like safe sex talks etc0

mummynumber2 · 21/12/2007 22:55

I really do have a lot of respect for single parents. My best fried is a single mother and I appreciate how difficult it is. However me and my DP are dealing with the family court system and I agree that they are disgracefull. In this day and age so called 'absent fathers' are blamed for a lot, so when a father wants to be more involved in their DCs lives and are denied that by the chidrens mother and by the courts they turn to these support groups.

neva · 23/12/2007 10:41

mummynumber2 - I agree that some dads do need support and there are plenty of well-resourced groups to provide that for them. However, mums need support too. But most of us simply do not have the time or the resources to set up support groups. So, our voices do not get heard and many of us are struggling with our difficulties alone. So, when somebody decides to set up the Guild of Single Mothers or the Single Mother's Union or whatever, I think that will be a good day for womankind.

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