I know I am not alone when I sometimes want to say f**k it all to hell!

[TwoIfBySanta]

RANT WARNINGRANT WARNINGRANT WARNING***

Ex-dh picked up dts today supposedly to take them to the cinema. This was a full day thing, having been given clearance by new bit who is complaining that she won't see them over Christmas. She who has seen them a grand total of 3 times, she who has been seeing him for only a few months (and if you believe that here is another one for you.)

For the past couple of visits he has taken them out on his own and things have gone fine. I have tolerate him and he has not shouted at me.

Today though...it is my birthday in a few days time. He knew I was taking them to see Santa tomorrow (on my own as I have always done even when he was here) and then out to dinner on Tuesday. I had asked specifically for him not to take them to see Santa so I should have known he would then do it.

Not only that but he took them to The Deer Centre instead of the cinema (not a problem at all as long as they had fun) but wait, because she said. Then to top it off her mother works there so they visited her too. WTF? That is over-stepping the mark, surely.

He then started a shouting match when he brought them home, smirking when he told me he had taken them to see Santa. Said he left because he wanted some control in his life, but I never controlled him - quite the opposite - she does though. I know the shouting match, the things he says to me in front of her are all for her benefit - she'll find out what he is really like at some point and hell mend her.

I'm just so f*ing fed up with his nonsense. He is now throwing a major hissy fit saying he won't be over for Christmas (he wanted to come at 7am because he is going to her parents for dinner and needs to be back at their house early) but that I'll get my money (just so she can hear I'm a money grabbing bitch I suppose, after he bled me dry of course, there is no money to be had!)

Why does he have to be such a bloody swine? And why am I alone this Christmas and not him? There is no justice. And as I said f**k it all to hell!

Yes my exH has quickly met someone new and for someone who hates the idea of serious relationships/committment (sp) this has quickly become serious and he is moving in with her in the New Year.

She has met the DSs twice and they are all going on holiday in the New Year.

Of course their relationhip (ex and new woman) will still be at the stage where he is giving plenty of flannel. The manipulative stuff came a bit later when I was well softened up!!!

The funny thing was he sat me down before we got married and revealed certain things about himself which I think were designed to put me off but tbh it was so close to the wedding that I ploughed on ahead regardless.

Of course we have two wonderful DCs but I sometimes wish I had heeded those warnings.

I would never warn the new woman though-I haven't met her and don't have a particular desire to. I did tell ex that she needed her head examined though LOL!

His pattern is to choose a woman about 12 or so years younger than him and of unequal status ie where there is a power dynamic (in his favour).

His gf before me changed the locks on their shared flat (the alarm bells should have really been ringing then) and apparently took ages to get over him.

And can hardly believe this but when we first started dating he once called me at work to come and rescue him from another more casual ex who had turned up at his flat and was threatening to take her clothes off. I did go and it did do the trick.

I actually don't care that he has met someone else in fact I am quite pleased. But I do resent the fact he has the freedom to do more or less as he wants whereas I just don't have that.

And that my summer fling with an ex bf has left me heartbroken (truly) and wondering why I seem to have such bad luck.

Here's to 2008

meanmutha, this will sound cruel but leave her to it. She will find out soon enough what he is like. You will just be seen as the intefering ex who just wants him back so will tell her whatever to end their relationship. That is why I haven't said anything to this new bit. Let her find out his true personality, then she will either be manipulated by him or luck enough to exit early.

My dts had a dance recital at school this morning. They know I will be there, I will always be there. I'll let him have his Santa visit, he only did it out of spite. I have their trust, he doesn't.

I would definetly say leave the note out of it as well..I wouldnt send a card to her either.
My ex has a new GF and originally wasnt having our dds at at all which was making me because there was him swanning about childfree and me completely tied down without our two children and him SNEERING at my choice of baby sitters(my sister and my mum FFS).
You can imagine the arguements that caused.
Anyway, pinning him to a regular access(this followed punching him in the mouth) has made me feel a lot better about things....now I just need to get him to have the kids Xmas eve till i go out with my new fella.
He wants to have Xmas dinner here so im going to barter

Yep I know, TIBS I should leave well alone.I just wish I wasn't so upset by what he's done . And I wish she knew my side of the story... Grr.

Erm, new fella CC, did i miss something ?

ha ha, nothing at all Nutty He retracted the lot, says hes confused and we are going with the flow
Could write a hilarious novel with it all.
he inspired me to start this thread ha ha

Ohhh sounds intriging, will read thread now.

After reading some of the messages on here I'm beginning to wonder if my XP hasn't been speading the joy around. LOL.

As for writing the note to the new GF...just don't bother. However much it's justified (and gawd knows I bet it is) you will come out of it as 'the bad guy'.

I was actually ranting about all this to my mother.

meanmutha, that is what bothers me. That he is telling lies about me and there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. He knows fine and well how much I despise gossip and lies and that this would annoy me the most.

It was the fact he wanted to come over on Christmas day at 7am to see dts open their presents. I won't be awake at 7am! I said 9am and I would hold off opening until after breakfast but that isn't good enough for his highness. He won't be missed.