Am I the only one who is stupid enough to still have love/feelings for my ex, even tho he's been a prick for ages. I understand how, I should be angry, and I am, and rise above it, which I do, but f*ck it STIll hurts, and I still have feelings for him.

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I think

Is it becuase

a, I have low self esteem, (don't think I desreve any better type thing)

no, I know i deserve better

b, I wish it had never happened and I want him to come home

yes, and sometimes

c, I am just lonely and all the agrro seems to be about 80 % of what my life 'is'

yes and prob

does anyone truly stop loving their ex. And if I don't stop lovinghim and caring about what he thinks of me, am I severly weird or stupid, or what.

my 8yr old dd needs constant assurance that she is loved, that she was planned (!), that she is my favourite/most special child..

my ds has become obsessed with me throwing things out, ie i am not allowed to throw ANYTHING out in front of him, be it a wet pull-up nappy or cat food packet! i think as his dad only left 7mths ago he is scared of everything else going away too..

im not sure why your dd is still upset, she prob doesnt feel v close to the man called "dad" who comes round once in a while?

Pirate my 6 year old DD sleeps with me every night now since her dad left - she goes to bed good as gold in her bed and off to sleep like an angel but ends up with me at some stage every night - either a nightmare or "to check you are there mummy" ...only problem is she sleeps like a starfish

lol my dd sleeps like a ladder, across the bed.

I dunno, I have just given up on trying to make her go to bed in her bed. It just seems mean, and she desperately needs to be with me.

my 5 year old ds ends up i bed with me every night sine his dad went in August. I figure he will stop when he is ready and is unlikely to be still doing this when he is 18!

You hope

nope you're not alone

This is my first post. I had to post because your original post struck a chord with me. I have the same problem. The way that I loved that man, I don't think I will love anyone else as much and definitely not the same. It's been over three and a half years since it ended. I only stopped being in love with him earlier this year. It's only now that I realise that I definitely do not want to be with him. And I don't want to be in another relationship after this, as those that I have been in and been in love with (2) has hurt me so deeply I honestly don't think I could pass through that happening again with my mind intact. I don't want to take that chance. And even now, my heart still physically hurts when I think about the situation too much.

hi only just caught up with this again.

I understand, i loved my dh very much too. I know I still love him. Some may think that its theold him I love, and thats true, but I also know I still love him now.

i also feel the same, i really cant ever imagine loving someone else the way i loved him, or having someone love me the way he did. Its just not possible.

i try not to think about him but it hurts so much when i have to see him every weekend with his pregnant girlfriend sat waiting in his car.

(((hug))))

i understand. my ex and his gf got pg, about 6 months after they got together. She had a termination tho. I was so wishing that it was mine and dh's baby.