Can I ask, what length of time it was between splitting with X and meeting someone else ?

[nutcracker]

Even if that didn't work out either, how long was it though before you started dating again or even speaking to blokes online etc ??

I feel a bit of a floozy now, getting together with my new man so quickly!

We met very briefly when I was on a girls Christmas night out last year. We talked briefly, and discovered our situations were very similar (he had separated in the March after 10 years, and I had separated in the June after 8 years together), and I thought he was rather attractive too, so gave him my number incase I never saw him again!
It took us another 8 months to finally get together though, due to my circumstances.

I am 35, so probably much older than lots of you young lot!

You aren't a floozy PC, I'd have defo been up for a date or something as soon as xp left. I did infact turn down a meet up with an ex flame just before xp left, as i felt too guilty......pillock.

I honestly thought that by now i'd have at least had a few dates, a short relationship or something, anything, but nothing.

God it could be like this forever

It won't be this way forever, nutty, it really won't. You are young & attractive, there is bound to be a man for you, but it can take time.

I understand where you're coming from re the guilty bit because I still feel the guilt now, nearly 3 months into my new relationship! It is mad isn't it?!

Nutcracker. I think I remember some fantastically supportive posts from you when I was first on my own a few years ago - so thank you for those (I have changed name since then). I'm sure it will be fine, but for those of us with children it just isn't easy to meet people. I have found that if I want to meet people (and I haven't had a lt relationship since) then I do have to go out where groups of people are, which I find quite difficult in itself!!

It's been just over 2 years for me, and to be honest I'm not bothered at all. My DS is only 2 (we split when he was 3 weeks old), and I don't want a man getting in the way. He'd only try to take me away from my DS, want my attention, pester me to get a babysitter and go out etc. Maybe I'm bitter and cynical, but in my experience men are very needy, always wanting to be your number one priority (while keeping you their number 8, after football and work etc!).

One child is enough to look after, without having to take care of a grown-up male ego as well!

PC I'm 36

macdoodle....im in a similar situation! My XP left when we discovered i was pregnant..im due in Dec too! So at 7 months pregnant not ready for dating either , but hopefully sometime! x

DeepinLaundry I happen to know how very pretty you are! Having met you at a railway station

You will be snapped up, I think. Try not to worry!

split with the ex 3 years ago, but for the first year I still had periods where I let him back into my life/bed to try and see if we could get back together so I wasn't looking for anyone else at that time.
stopped all that shenanegans 2 years ago and had a disasterous brief fling with a bloke I had always quite fancied four months later. That only lasted a couple of weeks and got me into loads of trouble as he had a LT girlfriend who he had never told me about (he said he was divorced (true) and hadn't met anyone since (false!)
four months after that I met the bloke I am still dating on a night out.

I was very lucky in the regards of meeting new blokes that I had single friends/friends without kids to go out with when the kids had their overnight stay with dad (would be much more difficult for me now to meet someone new as their dad has moved away and only sees them for a couple of hours a weekend)enjoyable as going out with my mates who have young kids and are happily married is, they tend to prefer a going for a meal locally for a good gossip,and not much scope to meet single blokes that way.

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It was 18 months for me, between ex leaving & meeting dp. I had my first "date" within 4 weeks, nothing serious, a real confidence booster. Also had an on off friendship with a chap. I wasn't looking for anything serious when I meet my dp, we've been together for just over 6 years.

hmm well ive been on my own now for 7 months,its the longest ive been single since i was 17...so its probably good for me.

Dont want to be alone forever though.
Probably just have lots of flings, as is always the way!

allgonebellyup - you won't be alone forever, don't worry! 7 months isn't that long at all. Give yourself a bit of you time, and someone nice will come along one day when you're least expecting it!

d'ya wanna bet??
i am very choosy, i have a particular "type" that i go for and they are few and far between...

I am very choosy too, and thought I would never meet anyone else. I wasn't even borthered about meeting anyone else either - it was the last thing on my mind after all I had been through with ex H.

I bumped into the man I am with now at a time I certainly wasn't looking, but I am so pleased I did!
I live in a very small town too, which tends to have a lack of nice single men most of the time.

It will probably happen when you're least expecting it, but there is no rush. You are still young and will not be alone forever - I will put money on that one!

My exh and I agreed to separate in June four years ago, then he took ages to move out and didn't find somewhere else to live until the following March - I was so fed up, and started internet dating around Christmas time, and did go out on several dates while he did the babysitting! I felt slightly guilty as obviously I didn't tell him I was going out on dates, but we were definitely separated (sleeping in separate rooms etc) and it was his decision to drag his feet over organising a new home.

Then I met my exb online in the Feb, just before exh moved out, and was with him for 3 and a half years. We split in May, and after a month I went back online and met my current boyfriend in July - we started seeing each other properly in September and i'm having a lovely time with him!

I don't think I'm that easy to please, but internet dating seems to have gone ok for me - and I'm 43! However, I must admit that I think I got back on the dating scene a bit quickly this summer, and perhaps should have mourned the end of my previous relationship for a bit longer.. Who knows?

i split with exh in nov 05, in march 06 i went on holiday and had a fling tho it was certainly nothing serious from my pov, it was 9 months after leaving exh that i started a serious relationship, which lasted 9 months til he emigrated in april

noone serious since, tho i am tentatively very recently seeing someone whom i have dated before, but i wont commit myself to anything serious til he has proven his worth to me this time lol

i think the thing to do is not focus on how long it has been or will be until you meet someeone, but just concentrate on improving your self confidence

when that picks up you will find it will have an effect on your love life

Agreed, lou!

Now who is this mystery man?! Think I may have to go on MSN later!

it's no mystery, someone i have spoken to you about before, i think

hmmm, which one? Is all going well?

it's v early days, i'm not committing myself til he has proven he is worth it this time

get on msn and i will chat

Nutty,

I split with X on the 23 Nov, got together with DP on 5 Nov next year. 5 years ago yesterday. He was a very old friend (we have known each other since birth) and it was just a shag!!!! I wasn't looking at all. In fact I had stopped looking altogther.

Has it really been 2 years you guys have been split - it doesn't seem that long - although it must do for you.