Drop double barrell name

[Cheeky7eight]

Me and my wife have a son, and he has my surname and her maiden name, am i able to take her maiden name off without her consent? She promised me that she would do it after 6 month, he is niw 2 years and still nothing done

I have discussed it but i seem to get no where, i just think it would be best if i could just do it and let her know so she wouldnt have to go through all the hassle, givemeabreak88 thank you for the advice and not being abrupt like the others on here

@Cheeky7eight

I have discussed it but i seem to get no where, i just think it would be best if i could just do it and let her know so she wouldnt have to go through all the hassle, givemeabreak88 thank you for the advice and not being abrupt like the others on here

Best for whom, exactly?

In that case, she doesn't want to do it and you'll just have to live with it. You can't (and shouldn't even consider) do it without her consent.

As an aside, it's still not clear why it's a problem for your child to have their mother's name too. If it's to 'match' your other children, that doesn't seem a good enough reason. This is her child, your other children are not.

Maybe the child wants his Mothers name? My child requested my name alongside his Dad's and I wasn't aware he even knew about double barrel names.

It's quite sad if the only way she could share a name with her own Son was to pretend it would be temporary, are you generally quite controlling?

@RickiTarr

Out of interest, Joe many children do you have and do they have different mothers?

Also why do you think they should match? They’re not figurines.

This is an unusual angle you have on things.

Everything this poster says ^

Your wife wants the child she created and nurtured to carry her family name as well as yours. Why do you think you are justified in overruling her decision?

Just drop yours and have the DC have your wife's only. Don't like it? Why would she?

Why would your wife agree to a double barrelled name initially if she intended to change to just your surname?

Did your wife keep her surname when she married you?

@Cheeky7eight

I have discussed it but i seem to get no where, i just think it would be best if i could just do it and let her know so she wouldnt have to go through all the hassle, givemeabreak88 thank you for the advice and not being abrupt like the others on here

I think people are confused on why you are so set on doing this?

Your child does have your name, but also has hers which is her right. Why would it be best you just did it without her knowing?

Why don’t you think your wife has a right to have her child have her name? Maybe you should double barrel all your children’s names with your wife’s so they match. If that really matters more to you than your wife’s feeling about her child and her name it says a lot. And you were considering just doing it without telling her... what a way to show your wife how little you care about her opinion.

Why won't you newer the questions as to why you want her to agree to drop her surname? "I want him to have my name" isn't an answer as he already has your name.

She doesn’t want you to do it. She wants your child to have both names. This is perfectly reasonable. You don’t sound very nice.

Well thats your opinion, clearly you are a judgemental person and i no longer want your opinion have a good life

If you won't explain why you don't want your son to have his mother's name as well, people are going to make their own conclusions.

I don’t think that is just one persons opinion. What kind of person even considers sneakily taking his wife’s name away from her child, knowing she gave it to them, and wanted that connection? When your name is already there too? Aren’t you supposed to care for your wife? Maybe like her a little bit? Not think about pulling shitty tricks like that on her and then being a bit upset people think you might not be a nice person?

@timeisnotaline

I don’t think that is just one persons opinion. What kind of person even considers sneakily taking his wife’s name away from her child, knowing she gave it to them, and wanted that connection? When your name is already there too? Aren’t you supposed to care for your wife? Maybe like her a little bit? Not think about pulling shitty tricks like that on her and then being a bit upset people think you might not be a nice person?

The controlling misogynistic kind mainly.

Gross.

Wow you want to change your child's name behind her back. Bet you are a joy to live with.

@Givemeabreak88

Ignore these responses, yes you can, my daughter has mine and exes surname and ex is absent so I’ve dropped his name and everywhere has accepted that and refers to her under just my name (school/drs etc) only place that won’t accept it is the passport office but day to day yes she is only known by my surname

No he can't as the mother has automatic PR and consent is needed otherwise it's legal.

@Cheeky7eight

I have discussed it but i seem to get no where, i just think it would be best if i could just do it and let her know so she wouldnt have to go through all the hassle, givemeabreak88 thank you for the advice and not being abrupt like the others on here

You need her consent and with you to change it otherwise you are breaking the law

No you cant thankfully.

It would be more practical for her to drop your name instead.