Drop double barrell name

[Cheeky7eight]

Me and my wife have a son, and he has my surname and her maiden name, am i able to take her maiden name off without her consent? She promised me that she would do it after 6 month, he is niw 2 years and still nothing done

No of course you can’t. Any name change would have to be agreed and done formally.

Do you really not realise that?

Why is it an issue ?

Not anymore than she can remove yours without your consent. Obviously.

Would also be interested to know why it's an issue.

Why would you want to remove her family name?

If you are considering doing it without her consent, you are heading for a split I think.

Obviously not.... Why would you want to do that and without your wife's consent...

Ignore these responses, yes you can, my daughter has mine and exes surname and ex is absent so I’ve dropped his name and everywhere has accepted that and refers to her under just my name (school/drs etc) only place that won’t accept it is the passport office but day to day yes she is only known by my surname

But OP's wife isn't an ex and isn't absent @Givemeabreak88 - so it's not the same at all!

Of course one parent can't unilaterally change a child's name when both are involved. Don't be absurd.

I’m only answering the question. Is it possible and yes it is.

But the question is 'can I change the name when my wife doesn't want me to' not 'can I change the name when the other parent isn't around to object'.

Why do you not want your son to have your wife’s name?

Why would you want to do that without her consent? If you're still married it'll really rock the boat, and if you're not then it'll cause you issues. What's the problem with the family from both sides being names your child holds officially? I don't see the problem.

I want my child to have my surname like my others, she said she would drop the double barrell down to mine and she still not done it

Thank you

Thank you and i am ignoring the other comments

I don’t think “what you want” is the main issue here.

If your marriage is in that much trouble that you’re trying to change your child’s legal name without her agreement, I would suggest marriage counselling and/or divorce.

Well if i realised that i would not be asking the question would i.

Thank you 👍

Um, no, of course you can't. Why would it be an issue, the child having both his parents' names? What's so special about your name?*

• unless you're going to tell us that her surname is Pratt or Mycock or Trump - in which case, you're not being unreasonable!

Out of interest, Joe many children do you have and do they have different mothers?

Also why do you think they should match? They’re not figurines.

This is an unusual angle you have on things.

How many children do you have, is what I meant to say.

Also, if you have a wife, why are you posting on the “Lone Parents” board?

Confused. Is the fact this is in lone parents a red-herring?

@Cheeky7eight

I want my child to have my surname like my others, she said she would drop the double barrell down to mine and she still not done it

He does have your name. He also has his mother's.

Why do you have a problem with that?

I think she is wise not to drop her name.

So you are married to your wife and have a child and they have a double barrelled surname.

But you have children from previous relationships and they just have your surname.

And you want your child with you wife to have just yours?

Is this right OP?

@Givemeabreak88

Using the name in daily usage is not the same as making it official. You can call yourself whatever you want on a daily basis, buts it's precisely documents like the passport that matters.

If your ex is totally absent and to avoid later PR issues if he ever resurfaces, in your shoes I'd look into officially removing the name.

OP, your wife may have said she'd drop it but must have changed her mind. As it's her right to. You have no right to unilaterally remove her name. Have you not discussed this with her directly? That would be the way forward.