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its my birthday, no cards no nothing !

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itbird · 08/10/2007 10:17

ok i know there is a post strike, DD (11) didnt bother getting me a card, i heard her say the other day that she was going to make one, but this morning she said she didnt have time, i had a right go at her, now i feel really bad for making her cry, i was in tears and still am typing this. Am also thinking well hey its not her fault, she was out with her dad on saturday shopping, could she have asked to let her go in somewhere and get a card for me? I feel like the most horrible mother in the world, its only a birthday after all!

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Sheherazadethegoat · 08/10/2007 10:19

happy birthday. don't take it out on your dd, take yourself and her out for tea and cake after school.

hope your day gets better.

Desiderata · 08/10/2007 10:22

Ah, that's tough when you don't get anything for your birthday, regardless of how old you are.

DD is old enough not to forget (even though I used to when I was that age!), so please don't feel bad. It will be a timely reminder to her that other people's feelings are also important.

Any how ... here's a heartfelt HAPPY BIRTHDAY, ITBIRD!!!! from me

PestoPumpkinMonster · 08/10/2007 10:22

Cheer up Itbird... I shall sing to you

Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday dear Itbird
Happy birthday to yooooooooooooooooooooo!!

Hope your day gets better

SharpMolarBear · 08/10/2007 10:29

Happy Birthday
On Thursday (or whenever this strike ends) you will get a huge pile of cards!

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itbird · 08/10/2007 10:29

Ahh, thanks girls, think the reason i am so upset is that she only thinks of herself, she spent most of yesterday playing her DS, of course some kids are insular and only thinkof themselves and what they want to, but doesn't make it any easier. Of course i will go and get a birthday cake and we wlll all have a jolly time tonight.

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compo · 08/10/2007 10:30

She'll probably come home with something and you'll feel mega guilty!

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itbird · 08/10/2007 10:39

No compo, already feel so gulity already, it is about feelings and how someone feels being ignored on their birthday, thats what i want her to understand, of course she has had mega birthdays every year since she was one, am not going to do the same with ds (3) of course he gets lots of presents and balloons, few family people around on the day for a birthday tea, but not in the scale i have done with dd, her parties are always 20plus friends, discos etc and cost a fortune plus her presents. It hurts a lot to be ignored by your own child, just cant stop crying god i hate birthdys

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lilolilREALLYISFEMALE · 08/10/2007 10:44

Don't feel guilty about showing your DD what affect her thoughtlessness has had on you. She's at that age (and it won't get any better for a while) when they really do just think about themselves. However, don't dwell on it when she gets home, buy a cake or some kind of treat and share it with her.
Try and do something special for yourself today, to try and make it a happier birthday for you. Take a long bath/break from house stuff/watch some TV/eat cake/chocolate - whatever floats your boat!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY from me!

ShinyHappyPurpleSeveredHeads · 08/10/2007 10:48

Happy birthday ItBird. I'd come round with a present if I could!

Where DO you live??! (Just out of interest... Mumsnet is a big place, so spill! )

Kids are selfish. My DS1 (15) as just started weekend work, getting £80 for every weekend he works. I mentioned to him this morning that I wouldn't need to give him money for Christmas shopping this year would I? He was appalled! His wages are for saving for a Play Station 3!! Oh silly silly me...

Hassled · 08/10/2007 10:50

Happy Birthday from me as well .
Don't feel bad about having a go at DD - she is old enough at 11 that she should have had a go at sorting something out. You were right to try to make her be aware of other people's feelings - I remember a similar scene where both DS1 and DD at the same sort of age did nothing for Mother's Day - I had such a rant that they've been over-compensating ever since!
Have a very good Rest-of-Your-Birthday.

Tinkerbel5 · 08/10/2007 10:59

Happy Birthday itbird, your ex would have known it was your birthday so he could have made sure your daughter got you a card, go treat yourself today x

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itbird · 08/10/2007 11:00

Shiny that is very nice of you, wouldnt give money for xmas pressies if he is earning that sort of money - kids hey who'd have em!!! of course it will get better - thanks everyone for their greetings, i am feeling better and will not dwell on it anymore!! got to sort my wardrobe situation out, had two hugemirrored wardrobes that were in the wrong place in my room, so i took them to pieces and re positioned them , two doors broke so have thrown the whole lot out, now have no wardrobes and clothes and junk everywhere in my normally spotless home, also still have all of our holiday gear to sort out, ironing etc its just a huge dump here at the mo and not adding to my normally serene state of mind!!

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coppertop · 08/10/2007 11:02

Happy birthday, Itbird. I hope it turns out to be a good day after all. xxx

ShinyHappyPurpleSeveredHeads · 08/10/2007 11:02

But where are you in the country/world??!

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itbird · 08/10/2007 11:08

Yes mothers day it was the same but you let it go and think positively. EX dh would have known as he took dd to his sisters stall and blagged a awful handbag from her for me! call me ungrateful but i only wanted a card from dd, the bag has gone staight in the box for the charity shop. He owes my money for kicking a bathroom door down while we were on holiday, had to get it repaired as it was a friends apartment, costs 150 quid, we were on holiday as present for dd doing well in her sats, so he came as well hoping for a reconcilliation that never happened thank god!!

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itbird · 08/10/2007 11:08

Sorry shiny am in Essex

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DoctorFrankenSquonk · 08/10/2007 11:12

happy birthday

I drove to my mum's on my birthday this year. dp was away for a few days and the kids were too excited about going to granny's to think about me. Mum had posted my card which hadn't arrived before I left, so when I got there I still got nothing.

You're right, tis only a birthday, but it still feels pretty crappy, doesn't it.

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itbird · 08/10/2007 11:14

very sweet squonk!! thank you

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GreatHauntieWurly · 08/10/2007 11:15

Happy birthday from one essex girl to another.

happy birthday

dont forget the cake

and some flowers to make you smile

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itbird · 08/10/2007 11:19

How lovely, thats look so like the cake i am going to buy later . thank you so much - you have made me smile for the first time today, thanks again girlies xxx

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alittleone2 · 08/10/2007 11:49

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Pelvicfloorlotsofgore · 08/10/2007 20:29

Happy Birthday to you!

Pelvicfloorlotsofgore · 08/10/2007 20:31

Enjoy,lol

kizzie · 08/10/2007 21:21

Happy Birthday - hope the day got better and you got yourself a little treat x

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itbird · 08/10/2007 21:32

well my day got much better, collected ds from pre-school, somehow he managed to tell the girls that it was mummy's birthday, they got a lovely card with a beautiul bunch of roses on it, he then stuck it to a piece of paper, gave it a few cuts and a bit of scribble. I was flabbergasted as he doesnt talk that well although he has come on leaps and bounds recently, had to hold back the tears when he gave it to me, but they were happy tears!!! so we then went for lunch and bought a cake, dd came home and we had a chat and cuddle, everything fine, cleaned kitchen dancing along to the beegees blasting out loud, very funny doing stayin alive, we all danced our socks off, now all in bed and have cracked open a bottle of rose. Thank you all for your wishes and geetings,they were very much appreciated and i was very touched xxx

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