Will a court order my children be separated?

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My stbxh is very awkward and had lots of problems with him. Upon my solicitors advice I stopped him from seeing our three children to try and force him to put an access agreement in place. There is a backstory but I won't bore you with it!

What he is proposing is having two children on a Friday night and one on a Saturday meaning I'll never get a full weekend with my three children and they so t get a full weekend together. I don't want this. Is a court likely to enforce it? He reason is he thinks his accommodation is two small to have all three children one night a week.

@RedRumTheHorse sorry I've only just seen your messages.thank you so much for taking the time to message it's very greatly appreciated and I've now replied!

@Feralkidsatthecampsite thank you. That is such a good point and I've never really thought of it like that before. You are absolutely right it's not me that needs to ensure they have a relationship with their father it's him. I don't know why my default setting seems to be to feel responsible for everything and everyone. That is great advice thank you x

I agree to put the onus on him.

It depends on the size of the room how he organises for his children, my old flat was 1 bedroom but I could have fitted 2 double beds in.

If you are not far from him then could the 14 year old make their own way home? Depending on area on foot, bus or cab?

My nieces and nephew are in their 20s now and still occasionally share a room when there is more family than rooms available.

I'm not entirely sure what the sleeping arrangement were. He has one bedroom flat that he rent and won't consider renting anywhere else that's bigger as he wants to force sale of house so he can buy (I doubt that would happen either tbh). I think that they all crashed in. Double bed (all dc same sex) and stbxh slept on sofa

If that's the case it is not ideal tbh

Well maybe he should take them away for 'his' weekends. Camping is cheap, lots of B and Bs about.

There is room under a double bed for 2 trundle beds, he can sleep on the sofa and the girls get a bed each.