Having a baby and still sharing the house with other people

[Plnchr96]

Hello everybody,

I'm 16+5 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I am going to be a single mom. Baby father left us when I was 9 weeks pregnant.
This pregnancy wasn't planned therefore I still live in a shared house.
I don't really want to be still here by the time a give birth as the house is not really suitable (it's not very clean - it's not clean at all) and I feel a really bad mother not being able to give my child at least a safe place.
Due to the coronavirus I also lost my job - I have been made redundant -
I have applied for the UC which is giving me enough money to pay just my rent and a few grocery, but as it's my first child I also need to get ready for it. My family is in Italy and at the moment they are struggling too so I can't get much help from them.

Is there anyone who can give me some advice/help?

Thank you very much
Chiara

That sounds really tough.
Sorry no useful advice but bumping for you

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. I'm not an expert, but have you talked to your local council about getting a council accommodation?
You can also talk to citizens advice.
Also, there is a single parents charity which might have advice for you and help you prepare for the baby: www.gingerbread.org.uk/

Good luck

Also talk to your Midwife about your concerns.

Your wellbeing is her concern and she will know what is available in your area. Children's Centres used to provide a lot of support in so many ways, but they have been cut to the bone in our area now - if you can talk to someone there, they will be able to signpost you to support in your area.

Hi there, @Plnchr96 - hope you don't mind but we've just moved your thread over to our Lone Parent topic, where other wise MNers may be able to point you in the right directions for seeking RL help.

We hope that helps but give us a shout if we can do anything else. Best of luck with it all and take care.

@binkyboinky Thank you for your message. I did not contact my local council as I don't think I am entitle to an accommodation. I have been here for 3 and half years and I only hold the pre-settled status. And even though the house where I live is in bad condition I still have a roof over my head so I don't think I can be classified as homeless. I can try to give them a call just in case.

@BackforGood Thank you for you message too, I don't have my midwife's number. They only gave me the triage number. Should I call them? Or should I wait for my next appointment?

@LouMumsnet Thank you very much :)

I don’t think your local council would help as you a adequately housed, depends where you live,
I suppose so no harm asking. I think you would need to look for private rent on your own with the baby and get uc to pay the rent, though I realise it’s difficult getting people to accept those on benefits.

The council can definitely help you find a more suitable rental OP. It might be a flat but they will have a list of landlords who are happy to take people who are on benefits. Contact your council today....ask for the housing department.