right ive been asked on a date & well........

[mojosmum]

ive been asked on a date by a man of plenty of fish he seems really nice but his pic does nothing for me i mean it doesnt repulse me but it doesnt make me think wow hes nice am i being shallow or stupid

im intending on going to meet he as hes nice to talk to & looks arnt everything but a small part of me is only going to experience a date & get back into dating only a small part of me that is

god i sound so shallow & stupid its just he doesnt make my knees tremble my heart pound or anything like that

help please

right think this is just cos im not sure if i trust my own judgment but
sunday date guy has just told me that he use to have a gambleing habit isnt in debt now but is going to a group & hasnt gambled since the 20th july

i told him that its not a problem to me as he is doing something about it

he did say if i didnt want to meet him because of this he would understand but that he would really like to meet

am i right to think we all have done things we wish we hadnt or is his past gamberling a problem ive never known anyone who was addicted to gambling before so please tell me your views

tbh I would run in the opposite direction..he hasn't gambled for a month?

i know & that did worry me but he was honest & told me & dont we all deserve a second chance or am i being silly?

yes he deserves a second chance but so do you, I would try and find someone you really like the idea of dating and who doesn't have addiction problems...I think a month is neither here nor there...if it was twelve months it might be more significant

however it is only a date but I would rather tnot be sucked in

i really do see what you mean & a month means no more that a day

but it is only a date & at the moment i dont fancy him its just gunna be my 1st date in years
thnk i will go but if i decide i like him then i will have to think really seriously about the gambling

At least he has been totally honest with you, which a lot of guys wouldn't, and as you say, he appears to be trying to do something about it.

Don't have much experience of big gambling habits, but my ex H gambles quite big money when he plays cards with his friends. He never got in debt through it though.

Not sure what to advise really. How do you feel about it?

think it makes it worst that i dont think i deserve a man without floors

not sure just thing everyone deserves a 2nd chance

Well I guess that there is no harm going out & meeting him for a night, as at this stage it is just an evening out with a bit of male company & may do you good.
Also, he has been totally honest with you before even meeting up, which a lot of men in the same position wouldn't.

You may need to think this one out a bit if you decide you want to take it further, but at the moment, it is just an evening out.

Don't feel that you should settle for a man with floors though, that is not true. You deserve someone who will treat you well.

God you're so brave! The idea of a date with someone I don't know anything about scares the bejesus outta me!
Bad enough when you've known them years. Oh golly. Not helping am I...

Good luck!

thanks pinkchampagne your a great help

flightattendent - i am totally terified but need to go get myself a life all the men i know are married with someone or male slags so i wouldnt want to date any of them

pinkchampagne im looking at it like that its a few drinks with male company

i just think nobody is perfect & if i met someone who said they where then id walk away without getting to know them as i honestly dont believe anyone is

ive found that the men that make my knees tremble & that a fancy straght off treat me like shit

Too true...upfront is great as long as he doesn't expect you to take responsibility for it iyswim.
I've known the guy I'm in love with for about 6 years. I never felt a spark at all till last year, suddenly he was just wonderful. Sadly I have 2 kids by the knee trembler types and he has a girlfriend

So knee tremblers are not all they are cracked up to be!

i have never had a relationship where he wasnt a knee trembler so how do you know you like them if they dont make your knees tremble?

Ah. Well I didn't know, tbh. Not till a year ago. I think it's the way they treat you, respect etc. But if it takes me 5 years well that's why I don't dare go on a date! I just would't have a clue if he was right till I'd known him a long time. !

well things have changed he txt me & asked what i was doing tonight i said nothing & did he want to go out for drink tonight so we are

im getting ready now

oooh, how exciting! Where is he taking you?
Be sure to report back!

have a nice timje.. and tell us what happens

don't know about virtual dating...just doing vicarious dating at the mo!

going to wetherspoons meeting at 7pm really scared now

will report back either tonight or in the morning

It is natural to be scared, but I'm sure it will be fine!
Hope you're having a nice time!

Good luck don't forget to report back

Well...how did it go??!!

it was great he is really gorgeous not like his pic

we got on really well & im seeing him again on sunday

he was very honest about everything or at least id like to think he was cos he told me all about the gamberling & he knows its early days but he determined to beat the adiction

i really like him

wow brilliant..fingers crossed for the future then