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Ok this is getting tooo scary

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lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:15

Remember I said in another thread about the local who keeps calling at my house, and turned up one night after finding out I was single with a condom? Well, I was just in my kitchen making a cup of tea and I looked up and he was there, in my BACK garden looking in the window! I nearly s**t myself. Truly. I yanked the door open and gave hima mouthful, telling him he was effing stupid creeping about like thta, and that I had an injunction out against my ex to not come to the house and then he pulls a stunt like that. he then started on abotu how he misses me, and I told him to get a grip, that there's nothing to miss as there's never been anything between us and that he should go home to his wife. He asked would it make any difference if he wasn't married and I said no, as then I would know he was the type of man who would cheat on his wife. So then he said he wanted to ask me something...could I cook, what music I liked and how many men had I slept with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF?????
But I know if I say anything I will be made out to be the bad person in the village as he is one of the 'mainstays' in the place; I would be seen as the newcomer, single mum out to get a man kind of thing. Plus his sister is the kids' new headmistress. I am now too scared to even make a cup of tea in my own fricking kitchen. I don't have curtains up as the kitchen has nothing to overlook it. I am still shaking.

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TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 22:17

OMG . That's really disturbing.

I really think you should inform the police. At the very least he was trespassing

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 22:17

You don't have to put up with this, however much of a so-called pillar of the community this twat is

for you

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:19

For the first time since I've been on my own I now feel uncomfortable in my own house. He's become wrapped up in some fantasy about me that's just not there.

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:19

deffo tell the police, what a complete toss pot to do that to you when he obviously knows that u have been through utter hell.how are u doing anyway.....apart from tonights scenario x x x

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 22:21

Pin a blanket or something over the window. Lock the doors & call the police. You poor thing. What a fucking looney.

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:24

Fawkeoff...I was doing great until then. Really relaxing and settling down.
Septimus...doors are always locked anyway, but I'm not putting anything over the windows tonight as I don;t even know if he's still lurking. I'll do something tomorrow though. I'm going to try and rally some male friends to come over on various days just so he can see a male presence here;he drives past several times a day so he'll be sure to notice.

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lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:26

Christ knows how many nights he's lurked out there. I'm sure I've heard something outside before but dismissed it as being paranoid. And the dog's barked at night a fair bit recently, though why she didn't bark tonight I don't know.

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:28

he is a complete prick how dare he make you feel like this!! i would advise you to tell his wife only he will feed her bullshit and turn it round on you then the whole town will be fed lies....fuckin nob jockey

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:34

Fawkeoff...I know. The problem is this is a tiny village, more of a hamlet really. I am the newcomer, the 'townie' and it's only since H left that the locals are really starting to include me and the kids. His family is one of 2 farming families here, been here for generations and I know me and the kids would be the ones to go if I kick up about this. Even the local copper knows the family by their first names.

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:38

well it doesnt give him the right to do as he pleases, just tell him to fuck right off or you will take further measures.I'm sorry your having to deal with this on top of everything else you've had to go through.

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 22:41

But his behaviour is outrageous, disturbing and very scarey for you! Who cares if he's on first name terms with the local copper? I mean, I wonder whether he's done this to other women who were too scared to do anything about it?

You're feeling vulnerable and powerless now, because of what he has done, and that is just plain wrong.

Grrrrrr....

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:42

Fawkeoff..I have told him exactly that...f*ck off home and stop doing this. leave me alone, I'm not interested. But he seems to be obsessed now. kept saying he missed me! WTF????

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lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:44

Septimus...I know. I just got over 4 years of feeling like that, and now another man is doing it???? This ain't fair!

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:44

complete wierdo, like you really need to deal with all this shit. if i lived anywhere near you i would come round and kick him right in the bollox for u hun x

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:45

LOL Fawkeoff...you always make me laugh

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:47

well i do aim to cheer you up, because you are way too nice a person to have to deal with all the shit that shitty men throw at you

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 22:51

No, it's not fair

Please inform the police. I don't know your story, but it sounds as though you have been through something pretty awful already. You need to feel safe and comfortable now.

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:52

I'm hoping to persuade a friend of mine to come over for the day tomorrow. He's a big strapping 6ft 2 bloke (who just happens to be gorgeous too) and maybe that'll put the stalker off.

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lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:55

Septimus...me and the kids have been to hell and back with the exH. In a nutshell he emotionally and psychologically abused me and the kids to the point where we fled to a refuge. Finally got rid of him via an injunction and now this. It's making my skin crawl to be honest.

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:55

well it cant do any harm can it, ask him to beat the shit out of him while hes round

fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 22:57

[email protected].... feel free to msn me whenever u want to, i have it on every evening most of the time x if im not online then send me an email x

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 23:01

Added you to MSN Fawkeoff

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fawkeoff · 26/08/2007 23:02

i just accepted x

lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 23:27

But what is it with some men? It was almost the minute I was alone he pounced. Are we seen as fair game then?

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TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/08/2007 23:36

How awful, lifebegins, that sounds terrifying & gruesome for you. I hope you & the DC have been able to find a bit a stability and peace (up until now, of course. Grrrr again ). You so need to nip this in the bud. Where are you?

May not reply tonight, as going to bed now, but will be back tomorrow.

Keep smiling, if you can