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Ok this is getting tooo scary

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lifebeginstoday · 26/08/2007 22:15

Remember I said in another thread about the local who keeps calling at my house, and turned up one night after finding out I was single with a condom? Well, I was just in my kitchen making a cup of tea and I looked up and he was there, in my BACK garden looking in the window! I nearly s**t myself. Truly. I yanked the door open and gave hima mouthful, telling him he was effing stupid creeping about like thta, and that I had an injunction out against my ex to not come to the house and then he pulls a stunt like that. he then started on abotu how he misses me, and I told him to get a grip, that there's nothing to miss as there's never been anything between us and that he should go home to his wife. He asked would it make any difference if he wasn't married and I said no, as then I would know he was the type of man who would cheat on his wife. So then he said he wanted to ask me something...could I cook, what music I liked and how many men had I slept with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF?????
But I know if I say anything I will be made out to be the bad person in the village as he is one of the 'mainstays' in the place; I would be seen as the newcomer, single mum out to get a man kind of thing. Plus his sister is the kids' new headmistress. I am now too scared to even make a cup of tea in my own fricking kitchen. I don't have curtains up as the kitchen has nothing to overlook it. I am still shaking.

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lou33 · 26/08/2007 23:45

report him to the police

and if you have a video option on your mobile phone, try and film him doing this to you if possible

dont let him get away with it, you really must not

lou33 · 26/08/2007 23:46

yes a lot of htem see single mums as fair game, think you must be good for a crack at, gagging for it etc, some of them know no boundaries, i know this from my own experience

lifebeginstoday · 27/08/2007 14:15

It's so bloody insulting! I mean...most single Mums are single Mums because they've got rid of one louser...surely they're not so arrogant as to assume we'd want to hook up with another?
I just went down and bought some curtains for the kitchen; I never bothered before because we don't overlook anything and the kitchen is in the back but at least now I'll be able to make a cuppa in peace at night.

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lou33 · 27/08/2007 14:22

good idea
or get a security light set up to go off if anyone wanders by outside the kitchen window?

some blokes are amazingly blinkered when it comes to this stuff

MyTwopenceworth · 27/08/2007 14:27

Film him, or photograph him, or get a tape recorder to record what he's saying. And keep a log of every time he comes near you. And contact the police so you have a record of it.

And get a HUGE dog for your back garden.

Or throw paint filled water bombs at him. He'll have fun explaining why he's suddenly turned purple!

Seriously though, don't underestimate this type of freakazoid. Take all steps required to protect yourself.

lifebeginstoday · 27/08/2007 14:34

I forgot some of the things he said when I posted last night as I was so shaken, but believe it or not he hinted that he would leave his wife for me (!?!?) and then asked me a) was I a good cook and could I cook proper home cooked foods...and b) how many men I had slept with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF? It's like he was sizing me up for being a farmer's wife! It was after the last question I came indoors and slammed the door shut!

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TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 27/08/2007 20:39

How are things tonight lifebegins?

lifebeginstoday · 27/08/2007 21:25

Septimus...believe it or not he turned up this afternoon. Tried to talk discreetly to me, but I was still so angry that my voice was getting higher and higher. he said 'sorry about frightening you last night, but I didn't know how else to contact you'. I half screeched 'You shouldn't be bloody contacting me at all'! I'm so sick of it. Even as he was walking down the path he was saying 'well if you change your mind...'! What a weirdo!!!

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TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 28/08/2007 00:13

Yup, total wierdo

Like lou33 said, if you can afford it, a security light would be a great idea.

Also, how about telling the police that someone was in your back garden, but not mentioning him - and then telling this knob what you've done? Would scare the shit out of him surely - stop him hassling you and also make you feel more secure at home?

flightattendant · 28/08/2007 10:03

You have moved to Royston Vasey...obviously.

HELPPPPP!!!!

Blimey. Nutter if I ever saw one. Please take measures to prevent him coming anywhere near you!

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