single and pregnant

[j20baby]

am i the only one that can't wait to give birth so i can start flirting agian?!

oh, i know its selfish but i like to feel more than just an incubator and i'm needing some male attention-even just a cuddle or to feel attractive!

[beller]

j20baby- Hi..Im wayyyyyyyyyyy behind you..im 23 weeks pegnant and single! XP did a runner when found out I was pregnant.... which was ooooh a long 17 weeks ago. Know how you feel though, woudl be nice to have just a tad male attention, although I have been out for dinner with a male friend...and another male friend has dclared his undying love for me recently, but I just dont fancy him!
BF shouldnt stop you going out..you can express, but id say the tiredness might!! Do you have a good network of potential babysitters?
Im here to chat to whenever!!
What part of the world you in?

[j20baby]

Hi Beller

thought this thread had died!

i'm in Yorkshire, lo's Dad changed his mind when he found out i was pg, its funny you should say about men declaring their undying love-i had one do that, he's a nice bloke, but he irritates me so much, i don't know why, and i definately don't fancy him! my ex (the one before lo's dad) has also come out from the woodwork, he hasn't got a chance either!

how you doing in your pg in general?

i only just got myself sorted out emotionally by 23 weeks, well, as much as i am going to until a while after the birth i think!

[beller]

Hi J20baby-

Well all was going well ..he was staying at mine about 5 times a week..had talked about him maybe moving in...then this....and couldnt see him for dust! Had acted like a 14 year old and not a 42 year old!
I have got my head round it now, and think i would have rather know then, then later on. At least I have gone into this with my eyes wide open!
I even had one guy that i met on a weekend away with my firend fly from New Zealand to declare his undying love!! Nothing happened on the weekend away, we had just swapped mail adresses and kept in touch! Flattering if not a bit freaky!
Im well in my pregnancy thanks, have just had 20 week scan today (at 23 weeks), and all was well, was really detailed and cool.

So you only have a few weeks left? You feeling ok?
x

[j20baby]

from NZ!?! he must have been impressed with you!

i'm feeling ok thank you, moved into a new house a few months ago, due to the threats from the sperm donor, and have been decoraring up until last week, so its nice to be able to finally sit and relax!

is your lo's father having anything to do with you? mine won't even admit lo is his child, he's lied to all his family so i have had no contact with him or them since about 8 wks pg.

do you know what flavour your having? i'm having a girl!

[beller]

well we just had a laugh with him and his mate..went for tapas, then drank in hard rock cafe...and that was it?! Had a few mails..then he said he was coming over on business....i met up with him for a drink..and he said he hadnt ben able to get me off his mind,and thought he was in love!!! He is married with a kid as well in NZ...I told him i thought he was a nice guy..but to go home and forget about me! hahaha oh well......
Well XP knows the baby is his,hasnt denied it..but i havnt had much contact. I know he has told his brother and friend, but I dont think he has told anyone else..like his mum or dughter? He is supposed to be coming round this weekend, but i will believe that when i see it! Thats terribe about you lo's dad! Will you have a test, or you just going to forget about him?
I had my scan yesturday, but didnt find out the sex.....Most people seem to think im having a boy...I have no idea!!! really dont mind either.
bet your glad to be in your house...do you have a good support network around you?

[j20baby]

morning Beller

i'm not sure what i'm going to do yet, was planning on contacting CSA and if he denies it he would have to do a test, but i'm getting to thinking, i might not bother, he's not a good dad to his little boy, and i don't want him seeing lo. he knows that she's his baby, he's just telling everyone else that i'm lying, he lives an hour away from me, so i don't bump into any him or any of his family or friends.

i've got a good friend support network, family-well, apart from my dd, who's 7, i'm treying not to rely on my them too much!

have you got any other dc's?

[beller]

Not sure what I will do yet either...He dosnt live that far from me, and he is a good dad to his dd-12. He is supposed to be coming over this weekend, but that remains to be seen. No I have no other children....Going to be my first! Eeeek! MY older sis has 2, 14 and 12. and my younger sister has a DS-1. Im 37, and really the first of my set of friends to have a baby!

[j20baby]

good job you'll have MN to rely upon then, tbh i've forgotten a lot of things, well most things actually, so i'll definately be on a lot after the birth to see whats normal!

[beller]

Well I spoke to him friday...still burying head in sand,and hasnt told anyone! supposed to be coming over today, but havnt heard from him since Friday, so we will see!
How are you feeling?