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j20baby · 26/08/2007 00:02

am i the only one that can't wait to give birth so i can start flirting agian?!

oh, i know its selfish but i like to feel more than just an incubator and i'm needing some male attention-even just a cuddle or to feel attractive!

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beller · 02/09/2007 11:51

Well I spoke to him friday...still burying head in sand,and hasnt told anyone! supposed to be coming over today, but havnt heard from him since Friday, so we will see!
How are you feeling?

j20baby · 31/08/2007 16:34

good job you'll have MN to rely upon then, tbh i've forgotten a lot of things, well most things actually, so i'll definately be on a lot after the birth to see whats normal!

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beller · 31/08/2007 09:15

Not sure what I will do yet either...He dosnt live that far from me, and he is a good dad to his dd-12. He is supposed to be coming over this weekend, but that remains to be seen. No I have no other children....Going to be my first! Eeeek! MY older sis has 2, 14 and 12. and my younger sister has a DS-1. Im 37, and really the first of my set of friends to have a baby!

j20baby · 30/08/2007 09:58

morning Beller

i'm not sure what i'm going to do yet, was planning on contacting CSA and if he denies it he would have to do a test, but i'm getting to thinking, i might not bother, he's not a good dad to his little boy, and i don't want him seeing lo. he knows that she's his baby, he's just telling everyone else that i'm lying, he lives an hour away from me, so i don't bump into any him or any of his family or friends.

i've got a good friend support network, family-well, apart from my dd, who's 7, i'm treying not to rely on my them too much!

have you got any other dc's?

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beller · 30/08/2007 08:26

well we just had a laugh with him and his mate..went for tapas, then drank in hard rock cafe...and that was it?! Had a few mails..then he said he was coming over on business....i met up with him for a drink..and he said he hadnt ben able to get me off his mind,and thought he was in love!!! He is married with a kid as well in NZ...I told him i thought he was a nice guy..but to go home and forget about me! hahaha oh well......
Well XP knows the baby is his,hasnt denied it..but i havnt had much contact. I know he has told his brother and friend, but I dont think he has told anyone else..like his mum or dughter? He is supposed to be coming round this weekend, but i will believe that when i see it! Thats terribe about you lo's dad! Will you have a test, or you just going to forget about him?
I had my scan yesturday, but didnt find out the sex.....Most people seem to think im having a boy...I have no idea!!! really dont mind either.
bet your glad to be in your house...do you have a good support network around you?

j20baby · 29/08/2007 22:50

from NZ!?! he must have been impressed with you!

i'm feeling ok thank you, moved into a new house a few months ago, due to the threats from the sperm donor, and have been decoraring up until last week, so its nice to be able to finally sit and relax!

is your lo's father having anything to do with you? mine won't even admit lo is his child, he's lied to all his family so i have had no contact with him or them since about 8 wks pg.

do you know what flavour your having? i'm having a girl!

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beller · 29/08/2007 15:33

Hi J20baby-

Well all was going well ..he was staying at mine about 5 times a week..had talked about him maybe moving in...then this....and couldnt see him for dust! Had acted like a 14 year old and not a 42 year old!
I have got my head round it now, and think i would have rather know then, then later on. At least I have gone into this with my eyes wide open!
I even had one guy that i met on a weekend away with my firend fly from New Zealand to declare his undying love!! Nothing happened on the weekend away, we had just swapped mail adresses and kept in touch! Flattering if not a bit freaky!
Im well in my pregnancy thanks, have just had 20 week scan today (at 23 weeks), and all was well, was really detailed and cool.

So you only have a few weeks left? You feeling ok?
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j20baby · 28/08/2007 15:45

Hi Beller

thought this thread had died!

i'm in Yorkshire, lo's Dad changed his mind when he found out i was pg, its funny you should say about men declaring their undying love-i had one do that, he's a nice bloke, but he irritates me so much, i don't know why, and i definately don't fancy him! my ex (the one before lo's dad) has also come out from the woodwork, he hasn't got a chance either!

how you doing in your pg in general?

i only just got myself sorted out emotionally by 23 weeks, well, as much as i am going to until a while after the birth i think!

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beller · 28/08/2007 09:56

j20baby- Hi..Im wayyyyyyyyyyy behind you..im 23 weeks pegnant and single! XP did a runner when found out I was pregnant.... which was ooooh a long 17 weeks ago. Know how you feel though, woudl be nice to have just a tad male attention, although I have been out for dinner with a male friend...and another male friend has dclared his undying love for me recently, but I just dont fancy him!
BF shouldnt stop you going out..you can express, but id say the tiredness might!! Do you have a good network of potential babysitters?
Im here to chat to whenever!!
What part of the world you in?

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 01:17

ah now witty - goes a long way i hear. when i was a kid i was told - 'if wit was shit, youd be constipated'. anyway - hope it all goes well, am sure youll have a great time, even if a bit weird...bet you dont meet him and think - oh no, a weirdo!! have fun, i'll think of taming lions and such. altho, i'm still stuck working in a local country house thingy for a while.

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 01:11

ha ha ha - the teachers are all a bit self important and poncey though - I want something a bit more worldly

Working with the exotic animals? that would be an experience

I'm on one of these 'dates' tomorrow - so will go to bed to get my beauty sleep... it's definitely fun! even if the guys not right... they're very witty!

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 01:05

is true - just as many dodgy birds/fellas in the pub i guess. you just dont see them coming as easily. but fun sounds good. hope you find a good one, expect theres a few single teachers lurking in the halls

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 01:01

Oh Sdot... so sorry to hear that loving the word 'crapitude' though.. the dating direct thing, some of the guys are lovely and genuine and very sweet - but some ARE a bit wierd... serial seducers {yeuk} It's a bit of fun though

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 01:01

oh and work - well i would love to work with animals - lots of unusual ones - and used to be engineer so would take to the rides just as easily. not quite the academic slant of teaching.

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 00:56

erm... i did...for the last year...got dumped, thru my own crapitude, a couple of days ago. wouldnt dare do the dating direct thingy. would expect them to be psyco weirdos....wht did i say about my crapitude?

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 00:52

what would you work as? in the theme park?

Moving to start a project sounds exciting..

You not found anyone to share your life with?

I've not... I've decided I might fare well on Dating Direct... might give me the chance to get out and start seeing live music and films again

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 00:49

have had a busy year, now poised to move - looking for something interesting to renovate - and a change in career. even looking at working in local theme park - need something different.

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 00:46

Night night j20

Life is absolutely great - I'm starting teacher training and my boy is nearly 2 now - have placement at a Steiner Waldorf Kindergarten

things are very rosy

You?

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 00:44

oh well done - even more fun when ex paying for it.

singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 00:44

a night owl? erm, so hows life? dont get here that often now meself. your name just lept out at me.

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 00:42

i've just got the internet back now Ex DP has been coerced (sp) by the CSA to pay maintenence! [gloat slightly emoticon]

wabbitt · 26/08/2007 00:41

yeah!!! night owl still!

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wabbitt · 26/08/2007 00:40

If you're young you might be out at gigs pretty soon after... my dd was a week and 3 days old when I started going out to see bands... i was 22 and just wanted to feel like me again.. I was bf and just expressed enough for the 2 or so hours I was away.. and lovely Mum took over for me I was a musician and felt being back on the [scene] was necessary for my sanity...

j20baby · 26/08/2007 00:38

no worries sdo3, have a chat, off to bed now anyway

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singledadofthree · 26/08/2007 00:37

oh wow!!! dont mean to hijack j20 - but used to ramble all night to wabbitt.

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