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is it ok to lie about how long i have been single????

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snowwonder · 12/08/2007 22:01

or do i just tell the truth and admit to 2 years?

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 22:58

fransmom please dont worry about hijack

i know i have got to go i dont want to regret it.....i just need to get my head around it...

i am used to getting changed into my pj's at 7 pm not getting changed to go out on a date!!!!!

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mamama · 13/08/2007 23:04

Ooo, well done snowwonder, a date! How exciting. 2 years doesn't sound like a long time, especially if you were in a long-term relationship before. It takes a long time to adjust.

I just started dating again after almost 2 yrs of being single . There is no way I could have done that until now.

Def. no need to lie about it.

fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:06

ok thanks x
having a few probs with dp again and i have just realised that dd's nail biting may be a sign of her going through the mill as well. i feel so bad for her.

fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:08

you have to go sw

maybe save your as pj's for later on if things develop along those lines
sorry. i think i have been on mn too long (not today! but since i joined) and now i have brougth down the tone of the thread

mamama · 13/08/2007 23:12

Oh no, FM I'm sorry you are having a rough time. {hugs}

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 23:13

LOL......

my pj collection will need updating if we go down that road...

Wouls a date on the day my ex gets married be a good or bad idea.... i really need somthing to take my mind off it but i also wouldnt want it on my mind during the date iyswim.......

fransmom- i hope you and your dd are ok...

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fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:13

thanks mamama (had to count the letters then as fingers got stuck on k/board!)
it hurts liek hellcos i knwo it will hurt him when i say i am not sure abiut him anymore and id on;t like hurting anyone

KerryMumbledore · 13/08/2007 23:14

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fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:15

maybe not then sw, what did your ex really hate you doing at home? wa sit somehting liek eating toast in bed (witht all the crumbs that entials ) or something like leaving the newspaper folded up halfwayt hru the paper?

it hink my spelling looks like cod's now!

fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:15

did you km? where..............?

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 23:15

fransmom i cant imagine anyone likes hurting anyone.....

but you do need to put yourself and dd first...
wishing you well with it all

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fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:16

thank you snowwonder. i am pleased for you though. have you said yes to him yet???????

found it km

KerryMumbledore · 13/08/2007 23:16

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madamez · 13/08/2007 23:17

Snowwonder: having something amusing to do on the day your x gets married is a good idea. AN actual date would be OK if the bloke is either someone you know and feel comfy with, or someone you're not that fussed about (because then it won't actually matter if you transmute into Raging Vengeful Jilted Harpy after a couple of sherries - you need never see him again). But if no actual date available, try to arrange to see friends or invite them round.
I remember doing this when an X of mine got married - even though I was very happy for him and was actually a witness at the wedding, I made sure that I was going to spend the evening with good friends.

Good luck with your dating in general, though - and don't worry about how long you've been single - just say you're choosy

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 23:18

my youngest dd starts school this year, so have loads of stuff to buy that she needs which i am so excited about so i will maybe do that on that day and have a meal out- which is something we never do really

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fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:26

that would be lovely sw some special time just for you and dd. and maybe a glaass of vino with soem mates on the pm?

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 23:27

thanks for your wise words madamez

i havent said yes yet but i will....

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fransmom · 13/08/2007 23:28

good for you

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snowwonder · 13/08/2007 23:32

I have realised that i need to make the ost of my precious life a bit more and take some chances......

i will let you all know what happens,

fransmom, i hope you are ok. stay strong

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KerryMumbledore · 14/08/2007 21:23

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Nightynight · 14/08/2007 21:44

isnt the average around 6 years before getting married again?

2 years is nothing, it shows that you dont just accept the first one that comes along!

fransmom · 14/08/2007 22:53

am ok thanks sw, will chat more 2moro x

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snowwonder · 16/08/2007 21:41

well i didnt say yes when he asked me before

and he has asked me again, and i now feel sick with worry

i could do with losing 2 stone before i meet him....

going on hols next week,

arghh i dont know what to do, the only time i am child free is tomorrow nite..

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fransmom · 16/08/2007 22:39

so you go out on saturday then

a traditional time for going out on a first date
go
GO
GO

{grin]

fransmom · 16/08/2007 22:41

(ps sorry i didn't get round to posting yesterday! we stayed up chatting til 1 am on monday. then my phone went at ten to 7 on tuesday, i wasn't due up til half past 7, i had to be in work as one fo the girls was sick and needed to go home! i don't hink i have caught up on my sleep yet was looking forwards to a lie in 2moro but shan't get one then either