If xp seeks legal advice about access to the kids, will it go to court or is it sorted outside of court ??

[nutcracker]

He is not allowed to see them as from yesterday, as he lies about where they are going and who is going with them, and ignores requests to make sure they have enough to drink etc.
I no longer wish to deal with him at all.

I am well aware that I cannot stop him from seeing them if he takes it further, but if he does what will happen ??

Tbh I doubt he will bother as he will think I will change my mind eventually, but I won't, I am sick of him pissing us about.

We were never married but his name is on all 3 birth certificates.

When I met him his dd was about 7 and his ds about 9 I think. We had them after school every day until we moved and then every weekend after that. As I have said previously, we brought a house we couldn't afford so that we'd have room for them to stay at weekends and he was insistent about it, so I just don't get why he can't treat our kids the same. He has always treated them differently though.

I just feel so crap now today, can see him sitting there on my sofa smirking at me whilst he tried to justify his actions and I just feel so angry with him, and at myself for letting him do this.

Was it you who was eager to set up home for his kids nutty?
And he just went along with it, because to not go along with it would have shown him up for what he is. A useless Feck

Probably CC, not sure now, am beginning to think I never knew the real him.

Have just seen another friend on my way back from the shops, and she said her hubby saw them at my local shop together 2 thursdays ago, which was after he first had our kids for the day.

God i am so dumb, have just realised that when he brought my kids back on the thursday, she walked past my house and he laighed and said 'oh look there is xxxx', like he was trying to wind me up, and yet all along he was going straight from mine to hers anyway.

Her kids have spent more time with him these hols than mine have since we split.

Well he normally rings them on a sunday night and he didn't so, it didn't take much for him to get used to not bothering at all.

Dont let this eat you up. Chin up. She will get fed up of his lazy arse ways soon enough.