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I am SO angry right now, I can't even speak properly

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 15:57

Remember my xp and my friend who apparently were just friends, well it is all a load of bollocks, he has been at her flat nearly all week, taken her kids on days out, and now today has collected my kids to take them to the museum and guess who has gone too ? yep her and her kids.

How the fuck did he think i wouldn't find out.

They have both made me out to look thick and basically just trated me and my kids feelings like we don't matter.

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nomdeplume · 09/08/2007 15:59

If I were you I wouldn't nec be upset about them being together, but I would be pissed at him for going off on 'family' trips put with her kids when he is shit at taking his own children out for the day.

GoingThroughChanges · 09/08/2007 16:01

Right, so the bastard can afford to take her & her kids on days out yet couldn't afford the bus fair to come & see his own kids?

Now that I would be fuming about!! Bastard.

tiredemma · 09/08/2007 16:01

Toss bag- what an absolute wanker.

So he has been local and not bothered with the kids????

Pinkchampagne · 09/08/2007 16:02

What an arse! I would be fuming too

compo · 09/08/2007 16:02

You are better off without him

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:02

That is what I am mad at, and the fact that he has to do it on my doorstep.

He swore to me that he'd been to her flat twice and that was it, and that he'd had no contact with her since.

Oh and his eldest dd is also in on it, she has been driving him over here to visit my friend.

It is the lies and deciet that is annoying me, more than anything.

I had to find it all out from a friend who lives in other friends block, and who didn't think it right that she was having to tell her dd, not to mention that her my dd's dad is visiting and taking out other peoples kids.

He took them fishing in the park, either Mon or Tue, and yet he didn't even ring and see if his own kids were avialble to go.

He has blown it big time.

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:03

He has been less than 5 min down the road all week emma.

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tiredemma · 09/08/2007 16:05

what the fuck is this mans problem?

God, Im so angry on your behalf.

All this shit of that tosser who cannot even help you to look after his own children.

I could wring his bloody neck.

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:05

I feel so stupid and sick.

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compo · 09/08/2007 16:05

does he know that you know
have the kids told you or aren't they back yet?

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:05

I am not even sure what I will do when I see him next, and her, well she beter not come anywhere near me.

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:06

They aren't back yet, so no he doesn't know I know yet.

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allgonebellyup · 09/08/2007 16:07

for you

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:07

I thought it was odd the other night, when he rang amd the number was withheld, now I know why.

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compo · 09/08/2007 16:07

Are you going to tell him? If you do try to stay calm and not yell at him, it will give you the moral high ground (which you have anyway)
ust say something like ' please be honest next time if you decide to have a relationship with one of my friends'

tiredemma · 09/08/2007 16:07

If you make a big issue about her, they will both think that you are jealous. Re-iterate the fact to this useless, pathetic specimen of a man- that the reason that you are so pissed off is because of his total disregard for his own children.

Then expand on the fact that setting up cosy camp so close to home and doing family things with other kids is both direspectful and a piss take.

wanker

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:08

I can't promise I will stay calm, depends on what he says i think.

He swore on his kids lives that nothing was going on, but then he doesn't give a toss about his kids does he.

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tiredemma · 09/08/2007 16:08

surely he would know that the kids would say something when they returned from the museum? or is he that stupid?

allgonebellyup · 09/08/2007 16:08

are you jealous as well as fuming about his lack of interest in your kids?
or just the latter?

compo · 09/08/2007 16:09

He must know that your kids will tell you who they have been with all day. He is probably gearing himself up for a big row so it will knock him for six if you are all polite and cold about it.
Does he drop them off at yours?

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:09

Aside from everything else, he knows that I don't like her youngest ds being anywhere near my ds as he is a little bully and spends all his time telling ds to shut up, don't speak and hitting him.

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nutcracker · 09/08/2007 16:10

Def not jealous, i'd rather put my fanjo through a mangle then ever have anything to do with him again tbh.

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FioFio · 09/08/2007 16:11

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tiredemma · 09/08/2007 16:11

Im sorry Emma- i know its serious. But your last sentence has just made me piss myself.

Should be quote of the week

compo · 09/08/2007 16:11

pmsl

You could just say 'I hear you have a new girlfriend, is it serious'
be all polite so you can get the dirt on how he feels about her
then have a go about your kids being neglected after you've got all the gossip