Having separated two months ago, my DC are with my XDH down in Cornwall and I really miss them (they are all staying in our dream holiday house which we built together with his parents - it really hurts). I am trying to keep busy and am in Italy on my own prior to a friend joining me next week - and while in some ways it’s bliss to have the freedom, I’m really lonely. Sitting here in a cafe with tears streaming down my face. The DC seem happy so that’s obviously great. But having been a SAHM mum for so many years and to four children, this is a real adjustment (I am now going back to work soon). My 8 year old took a video of a spider or something and it posted to my photos - and I just felt so crushed by sadness. I am getting on with my life and doing all that stuff - but am still very up and down. The split was fully his choice due I think to a midlife crisis and deep down I am still also hoping he changes his mind so we can try to go back to what we had (which was a happy marriage). You do sometimes hear about people who split up, at some point reconcile and then are “happier than before”. Knowing that this is a possibility (if only on paper), it’s harder to truly move on. He is adamant that he does not want to get back together, but there is no one else (though he wants to meet his “soulmate” when he’s finished his counselling) and he is still wearing his wedding ring. He fancies me and loves me but is not in love with me and we are “too different” etc. Anyway - really just hoping that it gets easier to be separated from one’s own DC? Any positive stories?