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fairyfly · 17/09/2004 10:27

I am tired of the converstaions i have with my x when he chooses to ring. It happens out of the blue and basically he still has the power to break me with his words. I said if he wasn't going to start being consistent he should leave us alone. He went into a barrage of he would see them but how can he help when i don't help myself. I don't know what he is talking about he is far too clever with his manipulation. I ended up crying after being made to feel like everything was always my fault. Then the line he says which gets me everytime is..if you can't cope and manage on your own then my girlfriend and i will have them. I said no thanks, his answer is well shut the f up then and stop moaning, you are doing it because you want to.
My life is fine until i get all this, how do i handle what he says, without him breaking me down again and why the hell can he still.

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fairyfly · 17/09/2004 11:36

i was only joking about the food, caller i.d. good idea. she talks to me to say things like i am hurting her boyfriend, or why do i make things so difficult etc, she once told me she knew how i felt as she has a little brother, she is a patronising arse. ok i will try and take advice by acting very calm next time, we don't need to discuss this etc.

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ladywallopofcod · 17/09/2004 11:37

I have caller id ff
you need a phone that displays numbers and then it doesn tcost much
good for mothers inlaw

libb · 17/09/2004 11:40

Good for you, and she should mind her own business when it comes to your and your X.

Does he really wear white shoes and silly badges?

fairyfly · 17/09/2004 11:45

yes he has clearly lost the plot, he wore a badge saying my dick hurts and a long rainbow scarf down to his shoes, fair enough, but not because you started uni and got a woman, the transformation is startling, and she probably has a zippy bag

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libb · 17/09/2004 11:49

Sounds like a couple of my exes - and that is why they are exes. My extobeDH has obsessed with Doctor Who and I hated walking down the road with him when it was cold and he wore THAT scarf - and don't even get me started on the Jim Morrison phase . . . .

fairyfly · 17/09/2004 11:50

Looking on ebay for phone

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libb · 17/09/2004 11:52

I have an old one that shows the number of the caller on it if you want it? will post it to you. It is a very attractive shade of white.

Beetroot · 17/09/2004 11:55

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tammybear · 17/09/2004 11:56

hi ff, just wanted to say that with my exp, I dont speak to him on the phone, or even on MSN as he winds me up so much that I end up getting so angry and upset with him. I only contact him through text messages, and only will respond if it's to do with dd. Anything else Ill ignore and just delete straight away. I have caller ID so I ignore it if its him or his family. Cant really add on much advice, as everyone's given you good advice xxx

fairyfly · 17/09/2004 11:57

Excellent i will call it Gluttony by design, thanks
Libb thankyou for the kind offer

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libb · 17/09/2004 12:01

no worries, just let me know if you are interested . . .

JanH · 17/09/2004 12:03

FF, I have a caller display phone too, you have to pay for the service but this one came with 3 months free if I can find the piece of paper that came with it.

I'm so sorry to hear that the little twunts are still getting under your skin, you know in your heart you are a billion trillion times better than them, I suppose "oh piss off" and hanging up every time he rings wouldn't be very constructive...

JanH · 17/09/2004 12:03

I mean you can have it if you like, wasn't boasting !!!

Prettybird · 17/09/2004 12:07

Don't talk to him on the phone. Communicate in writing - don't give him the opportunity to wind you up.

My SIL changed her phone number so that her ex couldn't contact her on it. She keeps a mobile which is only used to accept in-coming calls from him, so that he can talk to the kids - there are set times he is supposed to call. I suppose he could also contact her via that if there were an emergency. She also has Caller ID, just in case he does manage to get her number.

anorak · 17/09/2004 12:20

Oh ff...you stress about the opinion of a man who wears a badge saying 'my dick hurts' and a rainbow scarf down to his shoes? NOOOO

Get a better judge before you worry about what a person thinks

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