Contact when child is poorly

[Sausageroll123]

Hi! What's everyone's views on contact with Dad when your child is poorly? I don't mean really ill, just a mild case of upset stomach, otherwise well in themselves.

My 5 year old daughter was due to spend last weekend at her Dads, she was just starting to get over an upset stomach, he picked her up, then within 2 hours had dropped her back due to not wanting her near his heavily pregnant wife in case she caught anything.

Floods of tears all evening when back home, asking why Daddy didn't want her to stay over.

I was wondering what other people do in situations like these? He would have her when ill before his wife was pregnant. Unfortunately daughter is ill quite a bit due to a low immune system following a bad illness last year x

Errr why does your exh wife have a child that doesn't live with her???

I'm told it's only temporary, the child not living with her, but I can't give any detail in case someone recognises the people involved! x

Right so she has removed her child removed his child what happens when those new one comes along?

Is she safe to be around your daughter? It would concern me hugely that her child doesn’t live with her, temporarily or not.

She's completely safe to be around my daughter, it's nothing worrying why her child doesn't live with her! It's more logistics. They weren't what I'd call 'removed' from her. I'd never do it myself, but then everyone is different...

It seems this pair think kids are a bit of a novelty.

I don’t think it’s right to send a child with the shits to stay with a pregnant woman, no.

I don’t see why the 48 hour rule shouldn’t apply, even if it’s staying with the NRP.

I have one ds 50/50 and 3 dsc eow and 1 night in the week. Poorliness doesn't affect contact unless the dc is taken so poorly at 1 House that they want to stay in bed.

Parents are still parents sick kid or well I hate the fact that non resident parents get to opt out of the crappy side of life it pisses me off that my ex husband and others think the children they have are optional

Oops sorry umm rant over

Although your DD is tearful which is upsetting, I think your ex did the right thing here. He's wife is heavily pregnant and as others have pointed out a stomach bug could induce labour.

So what if she falls ill at their house instant eviction? Even though they are probably already exposed

Thanks, it's always good to get other people's perspectives. I do understand where the ex is coming from, I think I'm just grumpy because I was sleep deprived all week from dd getting up. Seems unfair for me to be the one who's getting up every night with her, and having to take time off work (I'm full time), when it was the ex's week off. But hey ho!