not such a yo ho pirate, my ex dh has just tld me he is getting married again, i am really cut up

[pirategirl]

He visited me today to say. This is the first time he has ever come out of his way to talk to me. I knew it was prob on the cards, but it hurts so much, somehow.

TBH in many ways she in welcome to him, he is a selfish man, and is certainly not the person I married. Yet having an inkling, and actaully finding out are two sep things iyswim.

It just seems so bloody sad, when I put so much into our marriage, and into having our child.

He said today that he just desont feel likehe should have ever had our child, that he is not 'child friendly' enuff?? He said of course he doesnt regret it, but that he doesnt connect to her as much as he wishes he could.

I reminded him that he used to connect fine to her, that he carreid her round everywhere with him in the 2 yrs b4 he up and left us.

I said it just seems like youhave forgotten. He lives with his girlfriend and her 2 children, has said he isnt going to have any more children.

I looked at him, after he said he was gettingmarried, and said 'r you mad'?, he said, yeah maybe, I dunno, not sure.

He said he wants this, that he asked her, and my guessis that she has obviously discussed it with him a bit recently.

I just feel so bloody sad, and a bit jealous, whereas I havent been up till now, cos i just never thought he would do it again.

i think its shit that he still has to play stupid mind fcuk games......if hes so happy y is he being a nob about it???????

Ow. Pirategirl. Not been in that position but I can imagine how it must hurt. So sorry

I had similar thing, just 6 mnths ater he walked out on me, our 1 1/2 yr old and 3 week old sons, he told me he was getting married and she was 4 mnths preg, our divorce had only come through by 2 weeks. I felt completely cut up. But it got better and although I dont mean 2 be awful his marriage 2 her lasted less than a year and now he has 3 kids he doesnt see (she has an injunction against him) and without going in2 2 much detail his life is a complete mess. This all helped me realize that it was him that was the prob. Anyway know it can really hurt, hope u ok

thankyou orange, i'm sorry aboutt what happened to you, that really must have been awful.

how is life now.?

take care

life good now. Was alone 4 2 yrs but then meet someone, we been 2geva 4 2 yrs and getting married next yr gone back 2 studying which really helped with my self confidence. The guy im with loves my boys and spends so much time with alot more than they dad ever did and they think the world of him 2, nice 2 know there still some nice guys out there

sorry, havent read the thread just your post. Are you sure he isnt saying this to get a reaction from you. If he isnt child friendly it seems madness to take on two kids that dont belong to him.

The job of step parenting is far more demanding.

I do think it is worse for the person left behind when the new relationship becomes firm so quickly after the break.

I cant imagine what my dh ex must of gone through. We got together quite soon after they split and were married in just over a year.

The reason for this is that we were both in our late 30's and I had not had much success in my previous marriage with concieving. We both wanted a child together and knew we wouldnt have much time and as it turned out we did have to have IVF.

However I cant see the rush in your x dh case.

ex dh , dropped dd off on sunday, and spent about 20 mins hanging about, trying to be chatty to me. Didnt mention the text.

Late i asked if his new g freind had been in the car with them, and dd said no.

Funny that normally he stays about 1 minute.

For dd's sake I was pleasant to him, he was even telling me about theis band and, that and songs he thought i'd be into.

he is a psycho.