Cafcass telephone in

[Mami16]

Hi

Has anyone on here had a telephone interview with cafcass? Could you please give me advice/ your experience.

Thanks

My Cafcass report arrived this morning.

I'm not sure I understand the advice to court which is to attend a separated parents programme as I already did attended a separated parents programme.

it recommends a routine for dc when there is already have a routine for dc.

It recommends mediation when I have already attempted mediation.

It said no further action needed.

Wtf!

Can i respond to this?

The SP course is pretty much a "default" Cafcass recommendation IMO.

I did attend but still question how one can successfully co-parent with a narcissic and controlling abuser?

They didn't have the answer for that one interestingly enough.

Why are they recommending mediation when I stopped it due to abuse and told cafcass officer that?

Have you attended an initial "jumping through hoops" appointment? I had to do that to "show willing" but the mediator signed it off as not an option on the form when I explained the situation re control. She recognised any sort of attempt at mediation with a controller would be futile. What a pity Cafcass don't!

I attended 8 sessions with two mediators. I haven't done a miam since then due to DA

My experience is some people still sadly don't recognise abuse unless it is physical and therefore can be evidenced. Definitely the case with me.

Sadly cafcass often act in contravention to laws.

They seem to be a law unto themselves.

You need to document disagreement with their report so that court can see their errors.

Cafcass need reporting for putting you at risk.

Write what you have written here, to cafcass, and to court.

Refer to laws on coercive control and there is a toolkit that sets out the process online.

@Smotheroffive I agree. It's too late for me and I will always be angry. In 2014 I stopped being a mother to my two children. At least, I don't feel like one really anyway. All because I dare to stand up to abuse. I hope coercive control is now recognised.

@Mami16 just had my report back and it was full of lies and he has made out I'm nuts

Mumm make sure you write to contest each and every lie, giving sound reasons.

A decent judge will recognise the flawed behaviour of an abuser! But you should highlight each inaccuracy as an 'inaccuracy'. Be factual and unemotional just factual, putting your DC first

@Smotheroffive I will, i feel sick and so let down by the system already. She half heartedly wrote my concerns and somewhat changed how I said them yet included ex's lies 🤧

@Mummaaon my ex has lied in his too but I've gathered evidence together such as pictures and texts and will be showing the Cafcass officer next week.

I hope the courts are used to this and see the ex as the abuser and liar and still controlling us!

Big hugs to you it's awful. Just remember we are going through this for our little ones x

It is a horrible kick in the stomach to realise the horrific realities of cafcass and courts biased processes.

Yes, do, take all evidence you can, abusive messages, threats, dates, other witnesses to it, their remit is just purely 50/50 but that's against laws on cercive control.

As in, they should not be facilitating abusers and risking the lives of DC and their DMs