Feeling lonely on Christmas eve

[Hotchocolate18]

Everyone is doing stuff with their families and I'm at home with DS. He's been a bit of a nightmare tonight and it's stressed me. I was looking forward to the whole laying a mince pie and milk out for the first time but he weren't interested. Going to be waking up alone with just me and him, he's 2.5 years old. Opening presents with him alone until I take him to his dad's for the rest of the day. Will then be just me and parents as sister is away on holiday. Just Feeling down and a bit rubbish about it all. I've tried to be festive and plaster a smile on but actually I just feel rubbish about it all!

I know what you mean about kids stressing you out. It's my youngest's birthday today too so all 3 of mine are hyper. Youngest in bed, just doing the Christmas Eve Box now and Santa plate thank god it's bed.

I stupidly hid all the presents in the bathroom cupboard so now I've got to bring them all downstairs lol. I hope you have a good Christmas and your night gets better x

Same here OP. Kids been upstairs all day, I'm staring at the tv willing them to have an early night so I can do stockings and head up myself. Got my mum coming over for lunch which I already know will be a judgemental shower of shite. Fucking miserable.

I’m lonely even though I’m not alone I’m with my partner

It's just really sad that I have no one to share when my DS opens his presents. Just me, I hate when you have great moments but no one to share with.

Hello I'm new here but just thought I would share that I understand how you feel. I separated from my children's dad and he will be having them tomorrow afternoon. It will then just be me and my mum which I'm dreading. I already feel sad watching all the happy families with mummy's and daddy's all together and knowing mime will never have that again. Merry Christmas all xx

Big hugs Labrador it is tough but it will hopefully all be over soon and can go back to the normal routine x

Hello @Hotchocolate18 , I could have written your post except it's been 7 lonely Christmases for me and I have no family on this side of the world whatsoever. DS usually goes to his dads family but they are all at work this year so he will go later in the week instead. I am slowly getting used to it and every year I think it will not bother but it always does. Hope you have a good day tomorrow

Feeling really lonely too

I think a lot of people feel lonely - no matter who they are with.
Take loads of photos of ds and share them with your parents xxx

I’m lonely even though I’m not alone

Same here.

I had happier Christmasses as a single mum.

I get you op. I have 4 kids but feel lonely and miss having someone to share it with!

It's just really sad that I have no one to share when my DS opens his presents. Just me, I hate when you have great moments but no one to share with.

Those moments don't need to be shared though, and your son will probably like it's just the two of you.
Take plenty of photos or videos and you'll have those to enjoy in the future.
And at this age Xmas doesn't really have much meaning, in a couple of years it will be much more fun for you both.

I'm the same, just me and 3 year old DS. DH died last November so it's our second Christmas just the 2 of us but last year passed by in a blur

I'm lonely even though I have a partner. DS is getting ready for bed and all I can think about is my siblings soending Christmas eve with their lovely partners whilst mine has been a twat and fucked off out after promising otherwise.

noarmani big hugs I hope this year is slightly easier than last

I know it can be hard. I have spent christmas alone before and don’t have a great relationship with my parents so it’s often not that nice.

It’s hard when you imagine everyone else is having a lovely time.

Just signing in. Kids are with dad tonight and bs k tomorrow. I didn't organise anything as I was working in the day.

Made a curry off bootstrap cook, bought some pink gin. Going to have a bath with a lush bath bomb soon as realised I bought an odd number. I've never had one before! The luxury.....

I feel lonely but I’m not alone. I have a nice family with siblings, nieces, nephews, parents. I have nice friends we’ve caught up with today. My DH and I have had a tough few months but we are ok. I know I’m so lucky compared to many. I love the build up to Christmas but I find Christmas itself a bit strange.. just another year nearly over. I prefer routine 🤣

I’m excited for our walk at the lake tomoz tho. Is there a simple tradition you could start just the 2 of you?

Perhaps everyone thinks things could be better at Xmas, as it’s never ‘perfect’ and expectations are set high. Sad but true?!

I feel like my little girl is all I have in the world

If it is any consolation, my son (now grown with his own family) often says he misses the Xmas days we had when it was just the two of us. For the SPs - try to dismiss what you think everyone else is doing, or what you think you are missing, and make the day your own. The kids will be just happy they have a loving parent that cares. Good luck 💐💐💐💐

Thanks nails I'm trying to block out the lonliness and not go on social media. I feel that doesn't really help. And as long as my DS is happy that's the main thing

I know how you feel, I'm with DH now but had many Christmas days alone with DD, it just feels odd. I tried to be happy but felt a bit hollow. I remember DD saying one Xmas, " why didn't Santa buy you anything mummy" and it broke my heart as I had no presents to open and no one cared. It got better, I got used to it but then I met DH. Try and enjoy it a bit

Another lonely one here! I've gifts wrapped and waiting under the tree. I know I am lucky to have her and lucky I have family to go to tomo for dinner but feel so alone and empty sitting here tonight. Keep crying for no real reason at all. Whilst being a single parent is much better than being with an abusive partner moments like tonight can be so tough.

Hey OP, hope you're alright. I know exactly what you mean about feeling inadequate when it's just the two of you. I'm trying hard to remember that it's all about my DS, not me, and in his eyes a Christmas spent with me is a perfect Christmas. He won't feel that way forever, he's only 5 and I'm sure as he gets older he will be less impressed lol. But for now, he's happy, and that's what really matters.

My mum is doing me a little stocking, just socks and a few toiletries, chocolate coins etc, because last year he asked why Santa didn't get me anything and I didn't know what to say.
I'm just trying to focus on the little things that I'm lucky to have.

Cheers to all us brilliant single parents making it good for the kids, even when we are finding it hard.

I’m lucky in that although I’m alone I’m so much more relaxed than with Ex DP. Sometime lonely, but never walking on eggshells or anxious in my own home. Merry Christmas x