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What are you doing for fathers day tomorrow?

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:14

I was just going to get a card for the boys to give their dad & maybe a mug or a bottle of whiskey, but I have had my mum on the phone asking what I was doing for ex H tomorrow, because the boys will want to do something special for him!

I wasn't going to do anything other than buy them a card & a little something to give him, and I haven't even got anything planned to do with my own dad, other than pop round with a card & a little something.

It doesn't feel right to plan to do anything extra, seen as we have recently separated!

Are your children doing anything special for their dads?

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NuttyMuffins · 16/06/2007 11:15

Nothing. I got a card and they wrote it and gave it to him yesterday.

We are off to my dads instead to make a fuss of him, as it is his birthday too.

stripeytiger · 16/06/2007 11:19

its a hard one isnt it, especially as you have recently separated. How old are your children? I was really upset on mother's day because ex h didn't bother to do anything (mine are 4 and 5 so not old enough to do anything independently) and I was even more upset because dd told me she really wanted to do something and asked ex h to get something but he refused! I was tempted to do the same thing but I have tried not to stoop to his level and got ex h a card which dd wrote and a bottle of wine and some choccies, a bit boring but its for the children.

Aimsmum · 16/06/2007 11:22

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:22

I haven't even bought the cards yet because I'm useless! I will pop into town in a bit, before the boys are returned to me.

I think it is one of my mothers attemts to get me to do something which encourages us all to act like one big happy family again!

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Marne · 16/06/2007 11:24

Nothing much, taking dh's children (my step kids) swimming so dh can do nothing all day

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:26

We decided to separate a year back, but have only been physically separated for just over a month as we lived together for 11 months after the decision.

The boys are 4 & 7, and I want things to remain as normal as possible for them, but I think doing anything other than get them a card etc to give him, would give everyone totally the wrong message IYKWIM?

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:26

Think he is planning on going to the pub tomorrow lunchtime anyway!

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:26

Think he is planning on going to the pub tomorrow lunchtime anyway!

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:27

Ooops, double clicked there!

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Aimsmum · 16/06/2007 11:28

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MascaraOHara · 16/06/2007 11:29

Well dd doesn't see her father, we'll be going to my parents for a while tomorrow and dd has made a card at school for my OH. He;s going out tomorrow so she'll be seeing him later to give it to him.

Carmenere · 16/06/2007 11:32

Dp is taking dd and dss to Calais for the day to see dsd who lives in Paris for the day as it was her birthday yesterday. I will spend the day working and do a decent dinner for them when they get home.

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:44

I think I will stick to just the card & little something to go with it.

DS2 has already made him a card & a key ring at nursery!

Can't remember him ever making a huge effort with mothers day, even when we were still very much together!

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PavlovtheCat · 16/06/2007 11:46

Its DPs first fathers day (although we celebrated father to be day last year!).

He is working in the morning, so tonight I will make him a packed lunch to take to work and will put card and present on the table fo him. DD made a cool card with her footprints at nursery for him, and I am getting a mouse mat with a picture of DD on it. If the weather is nice we shall go to the beach in the afternoon, if not nice, its up to him, but maybe pub lunch or something similar.

cheechymunchy · 16/06/2007 12:01

DH is living abroad at the moment - curernt stint is 3 weeks before returning home. So, nothing tomorrow. I guess I could celebrate Substitute Father's Day and cook a roast for the two of us...

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 12:13

My sister is trying to get me to go to Brighton with her to watch my BIL complete the London to Brighton bike ride he's doing for BHF, but that would mean someone having the boys & my mum is not prepared to, especially on fathers day when I should be pampering doing something with my ex husband!!

Not really bothered about going to Brighton, but I can't see myself organising some cosy family thing either!

I will pop round & let the boys give their dad his cards, and give my dad his (ex H is staying at my parents until his house is finished) & then go home or take the boys to the park!

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 12:15

Excuse dodgy sentence! Was obviously going to say "pampering my ex" & then changed it to "doing something with.." forgetting to delete first part of original line!

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Bienchen · 16/06/2007 12:33

Bought some haslet for DP; I can't stand it but he loves it. Oh and a card with DD photo on it; I'll have to nwrite it as she is only 3months.

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 12:34

Ahhh

I still haven't managed to get myself into town for these cards, but am going now!

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macdoodle · 16/06/2007 12:42

Really hard for me this year was exactly a year ago today I found out about OW - DH still thought we could all go out with his parents the next day - chucked him out that night and left DD with him all day on Fathers Day last year - things amicable now but exOW baby due 2 weeks struggling today (tired and sick 12 weeks PG) tearful and DH (we are seperated but he wants us to get back together) seems oblivious to significance of day for me can barely talk to him and he wants the 3 of us (me him and DD) to go out for family lunch tomorrow not sure I can without losing it crying or shouting

mojosmum · 16/06/2007 14:09

dds dad lives with his other kids so isnt interested in spending the day with dd it would spoilt his happy family day

snowwonder · 16/06/2007 14:26

my ex dropped dd off at nursery yesterday and they gave him his lovely stuff, bit peeved actually, as i normally keep the stuff she does at nursery as it is always so lovely and just get him a card from tesco

and i think i am entitled to as i pay the £110.00 nursery fees...

juicychops · 16/06/2007 14:34

We have grandad day as ds has no contact with his dad. But he is only 2.5 so doessn't understand properly yet.

But he gave his grandad his present today so tomorrow will just be a normal day

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 14:44

That's really sad, mojosmum.

macdoogle - sounds like you have had an awful time of it & I'm not suprised you don't fancy the idea of playing happy families tomorrow. It must be very hard.

I have horrible memories of last fathers day too. We had only made the decision to separate the week before & dad wanted us all to go along to an airshow like nothing had happened, a week after threatening me that I must make my marriage work or he would want nothing more to do with me.
I remember him telling me that we hadn't made fathers day a very nice day for him.

This year things have moved on a bit, but my parents aren't really fully accepting the situation, even though I am now in my own place with the boys.

I nipped into town & bought a couple of cards, a best daddy mug for ex H, and some whiskey for my dad. That will do them!

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brightwell · 17/06/2007 09:50

My dc are with their dad this weekend, I bought them a card & big bar of chocolate for them to give him.

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