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What are you doing for fathers day tomorrow?

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Pinkchampagne · 16/06/2007 11:14

I was just going to get a card for the boys to give their dad & maybe a mug or a bottle of whiskey, but I have had my mum on the phone asking what I was doing for ex H tomorrow, because the boys will want to do something special for him!

I wasn't going to do anything other than buy them a card & a little something to give him, and I haven't even got anything planned to do with my own dad, other than pop round with a card & a little something.

It doesn't feel right to plan to do anything extra, seen as we have recently separated!

Are your children doing anything special for their dads?

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Pinkchampagne · 17/06/2007 10:38

It appears that exH will be at the pub from lunchtime (when he wakes after his night shift), so the boys will give him his card & mug later this afternoon, when he comes to see them.
Boys seem happy enough with that arrangement.

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lou33 · 17/06/2007 10:40

not even a card as they dont know an address to send it

i forgot it was fathers day until i just read it on mn!

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Pinkchampagne · 17/06/2007 17:23

Can't believe he hasn't given the children his address, lou!

I have been round & given dad his bits, but the boys haven't seen their dad yet as he's still at the pub.

My dad asked why the fathers day card was only from me, rather than me & exH!
I told him that he was my dad, not exH's, and seen as we are no longer a couple, I was hardly going to add his name to the card!
Dad said "Well then I will add his name" and he did!!
Think they are still having real trouble accepting our situation.

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lou33 · 17/06/2007 19:12

he just says he is moving from one flea pit to another (note his turn of phrase ,to instil guilt, i suspect)

lou33 · 17/06/2007 19:13

omg pc he really added his name?!

kel4mum · 17/06/2007 19:37

I got dd1 and ds2 dad a book and cards. dd1 did him two pictures. I get on well with exh so i also took them out for dinner. As for ds1 and dd2, i got their dad sweet FA. ds1 didnt want to get his dad a card anyway, so i didn't get one from dd2 either. He rang me this morning to complain. I don't see why i should buy him a card when he doesn't even pay maintainance.

Hulababy · 17/06/2007 19:40

DH, me and DD has slept over at PILs last night as we went there for a meal and a few drinks DD woke early and excited - argh. After persuading her to stay in bed till 8 (although I was awake with her in end) she gave DH his present, and also took grandad his from us.

Then we went out for lunch with PILs and my parents, and my brother. Went for a lovely Italian meal. Then back to our house for an hour or so too.

DD now in bed. DH just finishing the ironging then we will have some supper/tea. No doubt DH will want to watch the golf though, so I will probably be back on here!

mistressmiggins · 17/06/2007 19:43

I have been separated 18 mths
I have bought nothing
I have told ex not to get me anything from the children for my birthday, Xmas or Mothering Sunday as they either do it at nursery/school or my mum takes them to choose something

glad I did this as for his birthday we chose a card but ex's GF took them out to buy him a present so am now leaving it up to her

my DD (3) made a lovely card for Father's day & DS(5) made a hanging thing
Only came out from school on friday with it & DS said he wants to give it to daddy next weekend when he has them

I spent Fathers day with my children, my DP & his DD & my parents - I took us all out to lunch & it was fab.

if I hadnt had the children this weekend, I would still have gone out to lunch with my parents & it would have been just as good

Mothering Sunday was slightly hard this yr as he had them for the weekend but at the end of the day, they came home to me & live with me & thats my best present.

macdoodle · 17/06/2007 20:15

hulababy am glad you had a lovely day but perhaps a little insensitive on this thread as in lone parents and most of us seperate from our DC dads so a bit awkward and sad all round

Meansleeves · 17/06/2007 20:19

To be fair MacDoodle the thread title is "what are you doing for father's day tomorrow". If you only wanted a particular type of answer you should haev phrased it better.

mistressmiggins · 17/06/2007 20:30

I know what you mean macdoodle and meansleeves but it doesnt bother me if "happy" families post on Lone parents

Im glad Hulabay had a good day - sounds lovely especially ur DH doing the ironing !!!

Earlybird · 17/06/2007 20:33

I'd be willing to bet Hula responded to the question without noticing that it's in the 'Lone Parents' section.

macdoodle · 17/06/2007 20:39

Well not my thread and I am not particularly bothered - actually managed to have lunch with (D)H and DD for her sake through gritted teeth - but I know some on here are really having tough times with their DC and dads especially today so thought a little sensitivity would not go amiss - am sure hula did not post out of alice at all and TBH am more jealous of the ironing than anything else my pile is almost up to ceiling

macdoodle · 17/06/2007 20:40

alice = malice
obviously

ipodtherforipoor · 17/06/2007 21:09

I told XP exactlly why he wasn't getting anything for fathersday - still got a sore throat from all the shouting.

only taken me 2 years to explain why i dont care about fathers day - or any other day involving him actually, - got to say I feel so much better for it.

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Pinkchampagne · 17/06/2007 22:38

Yes he really did add ex H's name, lou! Don't feel my parents are accepting things, even though it is now a year down the line.

It is lovely to hear of others nice fathers days.

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lou33 · 18/06/2007 09:42

omg lol i dont know whether to find that funny or not!

neva · 18/06/2007 14:05

I believe Father's Day is quite a recent invention. I read it didn't really start in the UK until the '70's. As I didn't celebrate it as a child (being a child of the '60's) - it feels a bit artificial. My daughter made a card for ex at school but forgot to give it to him.

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Pinkchampagne · 18/06/2007 16:32

Nothing suprises me anymore! My ex husband is staying at my parents while he waits for his new house to be ready!!

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neva · 18/06/2007 19:00

That sounds unusual Pink Champagne. Having said that, my parents have been known to invite my exh for dinner! Funny, I don't get invited by his parents...

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Pinkchampagne · 18/06/2007 19:04

Friday evening, my mum wanted to take my ex out for a meal to thank him for doing their bathroom, but this was the night he had promised to take the boys overnight!

The relationship between ex H & my parents is a touch strange atm!

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Pinkchampagne · 18/06/2007 19:05

They invite your exH without you, or do they invite you both in an attempt to get you back together?

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neva · 19/06/2007 21:13

Without me - just being sociable for the sake of the grandchildren. It's not a regular thing. It doesn't bother me though.

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