Evening all.
I hope I have posted in the right place. Apologies if I haven't. I have posted about the children's father before but this I think is the last straw for me. Quick summary so I am not rambling:
Kids go to their dads every other weekend. Have done for years. Saw the kids the first weekend in August as normal. Then when he brought them back moaned about how the kids behaved down there and that they needed to respect things and other. The kids are 6 and 7. They know right from wrong. They aren't bad kids but they do push their luck. Show me kids that age that don't. I just yeah fine I'll have a word. Then he made every excuse to not have them until Friday just gone. So what's that, 8 weeks since he saw them. But whatever. His choice.
I've never ever stopped them going down. No matter what he says or does to me I've always made sure contact was kept up with. More for the girls than him.
This afternoon he texts saying I should of warned him about youngest and her bedwetting. She has done it twice in months so never felt the need to. I always have a mat on the bed just in case. Kicks off at me saying she has ruined a mattress and she sat on the couch but never said nothing. I never texted him back because he would never listen anyways. Kids come back and we start talking about their weekend away. To which my youngest breaks down in tears. Like hysterical crying. She said her dad had smacked her for wetting the bed. Then my eldest pipes up that it was 5 times and then he threw her into a corner and she banged her head. I calmed her down and explained I would talk to her once she was calm. She went into the living room and watched the telly. Eldest says that she felt sorry for her and it made her sad. Well that was my heart in pieces. I had to walk off before I cried in front of her. Something I have never done.
After a while I went and spoke to the youngest and asked her what happened at dad's this morning. She then went on to tell me her dad hit her on her bum 3 times and her legs twice and finally hit her head before making her bang her head when he put her in the corner. She said he asked her if she done it on purpose to which she said yes (which is bull because she's never done that on purpose she's just a very heavy sleeper and she forgets to go the loo in the night) and that's when he's gone for her. She also said she was sick once on Saturday and they had a day out then he made her go to bed and never fed her anything till sunday morning for breakfast. But fed her sister. Which yeah if she was sick all day i would of brought her home not done a full day out then had her have light things to eat and plenty of fluids but I would never starve her.
He has confessed to me before that he has hit the youngest while she was sat on the toilet for wetting the bed in the past and I told him if was to ever do it again I would stop them coming down altogether and he would see them in a centre for the rest of their lives. He said he never would.
My question is, well not a question but would I be wrong to stop them going down. He's always favoured the eldest child and pushed the youngest out and now he's had a new baby he's doing the same with pushing the eldest out too. Not doing anything with them when they go down. Making them stay in their room all day. He told me they are out of control. They need fucking sorting. His words. What road do I go down. I'm going to find a solicitor but I don't know who to speak to regarding his incident. Please help. I'm desperate to protect my girls and if that means I have to do so from their own father then by christ almighty I will.
Thanks for reading xx