Feel like having a huge tantrum

[NuttyMuffins]

Just that really, feel like screaming from the roof top, that I hate it so much, don't want to be a single parent, don't want to be single, don't want to be like this, I just don't frigging like it.
However, am not about to
climb onto the roof in my pj's so shouting on here will do.

So there we are...feel ever so slightly better now.

Was on the thread about your surprise picnic last week and saw the photos of you all - you look lovely, there must be someone out there for you? Any luck with a job yet?

Awww Nutty!

BTW this probably doesn't hep you, but I have huge DP-related tantrums every day so.....you can't win really...(not trying to trivialise your situation at all)

You can have ONE piece of my choc too, only ONE mind, i guard my choc very jealously indeed...

Ohhh choc, thanks

No, no job news and no man news, tbh finding a job seems simple compared to finding a man LOL.

Hmmm, but finding a job will get you out there meeting people, and who knows...!

Nutty - did you ring the school today?

Yep rang the school, left another message, but as usual couldn't get hold of the woman herself, will try again in morning.

You are right about the job leading to meeting people etc and that is why I am so desperate to get one i think.

Know how you are feeling, Nutty! I am finding it really hard too atm.

Are you looking for teaching work?

It's pants isn't it PC !

Mal - I had volunteered for helping out in local schools reception class every thursday, but have now realised that out of the 6 thursdays left until end of term, there is only one were I am completely free, as my kids have stuff going on at their school. Am trying to rearrange for Tuesdays.

Not really sure what job i want. Am waiting to hear about a school nurse assistant job at the mo, but it's not looking like i will even get an interview.

Just realised Nikki, do you mean did i ring about the school nurse assistants job ?? If so then no, will axdd that to tommorows list too.

It is sure feeling a bit pants right now!

I don't regret my decision & don't want ex H back, but I am not finding the whole lone parent thing easy & nobody can prepare you for how lonely & alone you feel at times.

I don't always feel this bad, but I'm struggling with the boys so much atm & have been tearful tonight for the first time in weeks.

Hope you have some luck on the job front.

Hiya

I feel exactly the same. I don't like being single, I don't like being a lone parent, I don't like not being able to get a job, etc. Basically the only things I do like are my kids! And sometime I don't like them much

Definitely no regrets about the split but do find some days and most evenings sooooo lonely. Struggling money-wise and desperate to go on hols (need the break even though it won't be a break with the kids) and hoping a part time job will solve all my problems (if I could find one).

BTW I've just scoffed a mars bar, sorry I should've shared it with you.... I'll know for next time

Hmm not feeling much better today really, but then I had an awful nights sleep which didn't help.

The job hunting is starting to get me down, am so sick of not even getting replies, it just makes me feel so unconfident in everything i do.

Have just applied for another one though 'radiography helper' at childrens hospital, but oddly, because it is full time, i would hardley be any better off, whereas if it was part time i'd be alot better off. I would prefer part time too cos of the kids, but am so desperate to do something I have applied anyway.

I don't regret the split either, it's just so much harder than i ever thought it would be, and I am so much more lonely than i thought i'd be too.

Hi

I've just been trawling through some job websites, I've got more than 10 in my favourites now. Can't seem to find anything that suits, is nearby and the hours I can work around the kids, ie. term time It certainly batters your confidence.

Have you tried any ways of meeting new people? I've been on my own since November and still haven't managed to meet any other single mums - where are they all??!!

I'm going to take my dog for a walk now, it gets me out of the house.... Hope you have a good nights sleep tonight and a better day tomorrow.

Thanks Cat, you too.

Hi...I'm another 'I hate being a single parent' person!! HATE HATE HATE it!!

Trying my hardest to get out on dates...have been doing the internet dating thing and have a few nice men asking me out but just can't get out!!!.....exh only has dc's every other weekend, just moved to new area and only just beginning to make friends...but they are all married and unable to babysit for various reasons... and I'm very reluctant to find a complete stranger who would possibly be young and inexperienced to babysit just so I can go out...plus theres the obvious initial cost before you even step out of the door!! So I can only arrange to get out every other weekend!

Have a school job to get my foot in the door and gain experience, but dont do the required 16 hours...so what I earn in one hand is paid out in the other for a childminder! I'm wondering if it really is worth all the effort?

Being a single parent just isn't easy is it! I quite often scream, shout and cry buckets into my pillow at night....guess I'm not alone though, which is nice to know.

Hi Tallie

My xp doesn't have the kids at all so i rarley go out which does get me down alot but just have to get used to it as it is not gonna change for the forseeable future.

What job do you do at the school ??

wouldnt you rather be a single parent than still be with him tho nutty?

Yeah just feel like i am doing a crap job of everything.

No you aren't!

Any luck with school nurse job???

I rang the health centre that the job would be at but I got snotty receptionist who said 'well if they want to interview you, they will contact you'.

Bah!!! Snotty cow obv hasn't had a good length for a while!!!

I don't actually hate being a single Mum but it is really lonely.
I miss having adult company . haven't even got family around to chat too. I feel all alone.

I have DD's with me pretty much all the time. XP2 only allowed 3hrs supervised contact fortnightly, changing to monthly by september.

DS's are here most of the time now which is great.
But i do feel like i never get a break or time for myself. This will change in September when DD1 will start school and Dd2 starts pre-school.

ROFL

I so hoped i'd have a job sorted for Sept but it is looking highly unlikely, and I am just so bored all of the god damn time, and it makes me sooooooo down in the dumps.

Text xp earlier too, to ask him if he is planning on seeing the kids before sunday as they have his fathers day card, and he hasn't replied which means he is in the pub.