I am stuck in the middle. I am royally fucked oof that he can take her or leave her, but this break away, orchestrated and paid for by my ex inlaws is for 'their' benfit not our daughters.
They see her rarely as they love abraod. my stanc eis, i have tried to be fiar for two yrs, always pavimg the way for his visits, trying to make him see her more, but am constantly met with a ridiculous attitude, which is so self centered.
Last yr they did the same thing, but she had just turend 4, and off she was ferried, and obv missed me but somehow she seemed ok , and had a nice time.
This year, omg, well she is more grown up, has started school, and is very clingy to me. very disturbed by the fact she is to be away from me for a week.
Tonight it all came out, that when she was awy last year it 'was like you had died mummy', like 'my heart was empty mummy' and daddy doesnt listen and i miss you, please fonehim mummy and tell him i dont want to go.
All this, and she is five fucking yrs old. What the hell do i do. I face his wrath, i face him coming down on me like a ton, altho if he cared to really think, he would admit to himself i have done everything to make sure she has a healthy relationship with hi, you know, praising him up etc...
My daughter dislikes hi girlfriend, say s 'she hurts my feelings mummy'.
my inlaws just gloss over all he has done to thier grandaughter, and thik she is ok to go away for a week. They booked it without even consulting me, like my ex has a 'right' to do this.
I am scared to appraocu him, i am only gonna be the bad guy again, which i dont like but have to getused to. Its always my f ing fault, the way my daughtr feels about him and the fact he has left.
never his.
tonight she went and dug out a photo of us, and basically cried, and said ' i really loved daddy when i was three and he lived with us, i wish he would come home, becuase i hatehim now'