Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Lone parents

Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.

Original poster

Xp is shite but at the mo they would be so much better off with him

95 replies

NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:18

Have just shouted so loud the entire county probably heard, smacked ds and told them to put their selves to bed, which they have, dd1 has just tucked ds in.

I am so crap a parent i may aswell give in and let him have a go now.

OP posts:
issyissyissy · 01/06/2007 20:37

i think malaleche is right. Wait a few minutes, then go up give them a hug, say sorry if you want and tell them you love them. We all have huge bad times and make mistakes, but it can get better, dont beat your self up. You probably need to look after yourself and concentrate on you for a while so that looking after them can get easier. have you seen your gp or thought about getting some counselling, sounds like you are depressed and very stressed. There is help available out there. Have you someone to talk to in rl?

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:37

We have only been out of the house once since they broke up last friday. Well they have been out with my mum taking it in turns, but i haven't, unless you count asda.

OP posts:
colditz · 01/06/2007 20:38

NM

Have you got a violin?

oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:38

I would second what Malaleche said

go up and give them all a cuddle, say sorry, etc

I have a vivid memory of my dad doing this with me (he had shouted as I was turning my magazine too loudly! wtf?) and I pretended to be asleep when he came in, but was secretly pleased

poor sod was probably in bits downstairs with worry afterwards

we all have crap days nutty, most days atm I just tick the day off as my two fight from 7am till 7pm, with the odd break for crying

it is an endurance test, and no mistake

xx

Malaleche · 01/06/2007 20:39

no wonder you're feeling crap - i didnt go out for 3 days when i had pnd and i thought that was bad. get a ball and go to the park tomorrow even if its raining, sing in the rain!

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:39

There is a lady that visits me once a week who is sort of a counsellor, but tbh she is more interested in helping me get a job, which is fine, i want a job, but thats a whole other headache and area of shitness at the mo.

It's weird cos i get so stressed when the kids are here, but am so worried about seot when ds starts school cos i will be on my own all day every day forever.

OP posts:
Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:40

A violin, nope, why ??

OP posts:
oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:41

it is supposed to be nice weather tomorrow

can you all go to the park or something?

make sandwiches, get a ball/kite

doesn't cost much

go on

issyissyissy · 01/06/2007 20:43

perhaps you need more structured counselling as well as the lady helping you find a job. You are in a hard place now and counselling can help sort your head out. Ad's could help and you dont have to tell anyone at all if you dont want to.

sleepycat · 01/06/2007 20:43

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:43

I have to go and get my washing in and clear up ten ton of farkin sand from the path so have to go now

go up and cuddle
plan nice day OUTSIDE tomorrow
everything will seem better in the sun

agree with others on AD's, no experience of them but they may get you through a hump (are you not haveing crap with the DSS atm as well?)

you need a break love

xx

oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:45

mine say to me 'are you going to be cross Mummy?' and I feel about an inch high

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:45

Just been up, ds was asleep so just gave him a kiss, said sorry and told him i loved him.

The girls were awake so i said sorry for shouting, gave them a kiss and told them i loved them. Dd1 didn't say anything, dd2 said 'thats ok' when i said i was sorry, and then 'can i show you my scab on my elbow' LOL.

OP posts:
Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:46

Ohhh OO washing, you just reminded me brb mine is on the line.

OP posts:
Wallace · 01/06/2007 20:50

Oh petal, wish I could say somehting that would really help you, but instead I'll just give you my empathy xxx

Do try to get out with them tomorrow if you can

oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:50

yes, the glamour of washing hey

good for you for going up

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:57

I will try and go out tommorow, just trying to think where to go, thats within walking distance.

Im sure someone told me there was a new play area near-by but am not entirley sure where they meant, suppose we could play spot the play area until we find it LOL.

OP posts:
oliveoil · 01/06/2007 20:58

GOOGLE IT!

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 20:59

Don't know what it is called. Just tried the council site but no joy. Think it is on the edge of a new estate so maybe too new to show up on anything.

OP posts:
colditz · 01/06/2007 20:59

Nutty you got MSN?

neva · 01/06/2007 21:07

Good idea, just getting out lifts the spirits, you could take a picnic with you, the children would love it.

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 21:10

Crap just realised i have no bread for sandwiches. Have managed to find various articles that mention a play area being built on a new housing estate, so will just see if we can find it. If not will go to another one.

Colditz - Yep i have msn, [email protected]

OP posts:
Malaleche · 01/06/2007 21:11

sorry, someone phoned me, hope you have a good day tomorrow, or good in parts (like the vicars egg!)i have decided to do as little as possible this weekend as i am shattered and we have all had a hard week...

Original poster
NuttyMuffins · 01/06/2007 21:16

Thanks all, am feeling slightly calmer. Will really try and do something tommorow, even if it is just go for a walk.

We are off out to my brothers on sunday too which will be nice.

OP posts:
snowwonder · 01/06/2007 21:17

it is very very hard being lone parent,i struggle with it a lot i confesed this to my friend yesterday, that i put on a show to everyone buit as soon as it is just me and the kids it is like a blanket comes down over me, and i want to shut off,

my eldest daughter has just gone to bed crying as i just found out she has bidded for a phone on ebay and we can no way afford it!!!

the hardest bit for me is having no one to unwind with and share things with.. and the whole responsibilty of running house etc is down to me..

i do find the weekends hard and do have to plan things so we are not stuck inside as then they just argue and that drives me mad,
tomorrow we are going to JImmy's farm in Ipswich (think thats where it is !!!)

do you do anything for yourself? / have time for yourself?

could you chat with your health visitor,

hope you start to feel better soon