How does it work?

[Louw12345]

So the ex is having a baby. One of my children is already feeling unseay about the new baby. I spoke with ex and his gf.

Ex is now saying if baby is born on his access weekend we will have to swap it so his gf can get used to a new baby.

Never been in this situation before so unsure but I really don't want my kids to worry. I will explain why and that she needs to rest but I know they wnot hear that.

Has anyone gone through the same thing?

I text him and said it would be best to take them to a play centre for an hour or so

You're trying to dictate his time, I doubt you'll get a reply you want.

Your posts are very inconsistent, at first you're saying he shouldn't ask for flexibility even though he might literally not be available to have the DC if he's in the hospital and his partner is giving birth. Later on you're not worried about that but you're suddenly concerned his DP "won't cope" as she'll have too much on.

Children are adaptable and the younger they are the more so. I think Phelan has a point, it's a change for you, you sound unsettled by it and that's fair enough, but you're projecting and your DC are picking up on your anxiety.

A new baby is happy news, your DC will be fine.

Try to be understanding and flexible. Telling your ex what he should be doing isn't going to help relations, give him a break.

When you were giving birth and getting used to a newborn, would you rather have had him with you or hanging out at a softplay centre/the pub leaving you to it?