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really down today, dont know why

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pirategirl · 01/04/2007 21:11

Was just thinking yesterday that I seemed so much better about my ex and i breaking up.
Not so upset, bla bla, stronger.

Then this afternoon, I just plummeted, got really angry with DD4, going on a nd on, she wasnt even being naughty, just 'filling my brain', and I burst in to tears.

Just felt so angry with him for leaving us, felt like , 'thanks', we live a half life without you, I am just so tired all the time.

We get out as much as poss, I give my all to my dd, but today I feel very low indeed.

just feels so lonely.

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PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 01/04/2007 21:14

(((Hugs)))
Oh pirategirl ,i didn't realise you were having it rough!
It is no wonder you feel tired .

Blondilocks · 01/04/2007 21:19

Sorry to hear that & big hugs to you.

Not sure how long you've been apart or the circumstances or anything, but I was exactly the same as when I started to feel fine about it, the next minute I'd hit a low point.

Take care. xx

Blondilocks · 01/04/2007 21:20

sorry it being splitting up with my ex.... (been working too much lately!)

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pirategirl · 01/04/2007 21:23

OUr divirce shouldhave been thru last week, i was watchin the post each day.

Its 2 yrs since he left us.

I'm trying to learn to drive atm, as pelvic knows, i have a lesson in morning, just cant be bothered.

Oh dear, i absolutely hate feeling this bad, i have depression anyway. My inlaws r coming for easter to his and his girlfriends house, and my dd4 is going there. I feel left out.
Just sort of redundant.

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PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 01/04/2007 21:28

So sorry you are going through this.
Please go for your lesson ,don't let this stop you!
You are a really strong person by the sound of it.
If you want to chat in private ,i'm here for you

Blondilocks · 01/04/2007 21:30

I know what you mean. But there is no way you will ever be redundant... ur a mum & she'll still need you when she's a grown up.

Oooh good luck with the driving lessons. How are you getting on?

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pirategirl · 01/04/2007 21:32

thanks xx

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monika11 · 02/04/2007 21:33

i hope you are allright pirategirl.
XXX

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pirategirl · 03/04/2007 13:36

HI,
well my divorce came thru today. I have just had a huge cry and rant. I am more annoyed at the fact the letter form my solicitor is dated 28th march. postmarked the 2nd april, and i only got it today.

This means my ex must have known about our divorce b4 me, I only spoke to him sunday, and he didnt say a word.

I rang the solicitor and they said it should have gone out the 28th. Also apparently the court would have sent it straight to him, but mine went to my solicitor.

Just upset, we started something together, and i didnt even get to be the one who knew it ended first.

I feel so shocked we are actually divorced, makes no sense really as he left 2 yrs ago. I feel scared and alone, butmaybe this will wear off.

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PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 03/04/2007 20:38

Hi pirategirl,
Sorry to hear that
It is no surprise that you are feeling low ,i couldn't imagine coping on my own with just the 2 dd's.
Do you have family nearby or someone to take the dc once a week so you can have some time to yourself ?

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pirategirl · 04/04/2007 22:23

HI, thanks for your message.
Well. my mum lives abroad, there is noone else here family wise, my dad is here but doesnt have my daughter at all. He is at work , and his partner has never been one to get involved with me and dc.
I have a few good friends who I can call on, but I tend to get on with it myself,thats just the way it is and the way i am.

I found out today that the courts didn't let him know about the decree absolute, which made such a difference for me. I ended up telling him we were divorced, when he called. Towhich he said, 'oh, right, well thanks for letting me know' and that was it.
Nothing else.
yeah nice knowing u too!

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pinkchampagne · 05/04/2007 09:39

Sorry you are feeling so low, PG.

I am nowhere near the stage you're at, as much I have been officially separated for 10 months, we have still had to live under the same roof. I am due to move into a house alone with the boys in a matter of weeks now, and can identify with one second thinking you are coping with everything just great & then suddenly crashing.
When you are feeling this bad, demanding children can be a stress too much, I know!

No great advice I am afraid, but I hope you start to feel a little better soon, and good luck with the driving lessons - that's something I really must get round to doing myself!

PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 05/04/2007 20:22

Hi pirategirl

Sorry but your ex is a twunt.
Talk about being insensitive
If you like when i'm down your way i will sort him out,lol.

((hugs))
xxx

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pirategirl · 07/04/2007 21:12

HIya, we should drive over him.

when do you come down then to devon, its pretty packed here today with the visitors.

Going out in a min to get drunk lol.x

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PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 07/04/2007 21:16

Hiya
9th June i shall be heading your way
We must arrange a day to meet up.
Hope you have fun tonight.
xx

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pirategirl · 08/04/2007 09:52

thats good, as my dd is going away later in june with ex parents.
Thats where she is this weekend as they have travelled over from 'european country' where they live to see her.
I am quite sure the aren't as bothered about seeing him lol!

I have an email address but not sure how to send it to you on here without the world knowing.

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PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 08/04/2007 20:17

I will cat you or you me

PelvicfloornomoreChocolate · 08/04/2007 20:54

Have sent you a message

FairyEdwards · 08/04/2007 20:56

It is bad - it will get better and sometimes it will get worse but long term will be much better I hope.

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pirategirl · 08/04/2007 22:48

How do i get a cat message then, i looked in my settings or my profile and clicked the cat thing to 'accept'. Will this mean I get an email from you Pelvis?
I looked at wether I could send one but its a fiver, is that what everyone does??

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pirategirl · 08/04/2007 22:49

sorry pelvic I keep calling you pelvis!!

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Beauregard · 08/04/2007 22:54

lol @ pelvis
Yes as long as your setting's will accept a cat message then it's ok.
It may be tommorrow that they forward the email.
Then you will know my real name ................

Beauregard · 08/04/2007 22:55

I must admit that i only paid my cat subscription tonight

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pirategirl · 08/04/2007 23:13

Oh then I must return the favour and get my purse out. Will I have to do that in order to be able to recive the message? Or will it come to my email addy?

Having a mare atm, with an item i got off ebay that doesnt work.
I might start a thread about it.

God i have really missed my dd this weekend.
How old are your children?

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Beauregard · 08/04/2007 23:17

No need you should just be able to email me back.
My dd's are 5(going on 16) and 15months .
Do you have just dd's or ds as well?