My contracts are being sent out & I could be moving in a matter of weeks!

[Themessyone]

Starting to feel very scared now!

I know why I am doing this & still believe I'm doing the right thing long term, but this is harder than hard.

Messy - have you set a completion date with the people buying your house? This is usual (poss even mandatory?) when exchanging. Is your new place ready to move into, have you exchanged there too?

Not yet, tribpot, I haven't yet exchanged, but it will only be a matter of days.

Couple I am buying from are moving into the house that is being sold by the couple buying ours!

Okay, but is there a completion date for the people buying your house? That's the date they expect to move in. So you need to make sure when you exchange on the new place, the completion date is on or before the completion date of the old house.

At least that's my understanding of the process, I am mired in house-buying hell right now, but have only bought in Scotland before!

Ah, sorry, cross-posts. So you are in like a circular chain?! That probably helps.

Tribpot - It will have to be simultaneous, otherwise (unless Messy has huge reserves of her bingo winnings and candle party earnings that she has been keeping secret from us all) Messy will not have the money to exchange or complete. So, on exchange, the deposit money from her purchasers goes into her solicitors account and then straight into her vendors solicitors account. then the same thing happens on completion day with the balance and the mortgage money.

I am sure the solicitor will have it sorted.

Cheers Blu - just wanted to make sure that messy's H wasn't in charge of the house sale, with the likely complications which would ensue!

Sorry, they have signed to exchange, but the exchange hasn't happened yet, I am getting myself all confused here!
They are wanting to be in next Friday though, but I have said I can't do that!

Phoning removal people tomorrow

LOL at candle party earnings! I have only had the one party, honest, and you only get money to exchange on a candle unfortunately!

Removal company are coming round next Tuesday to give me a price!

H told his mum today

It's been quite a day all in all!
Solicitors phoned me & said our buyers either want to be in by next Friday, or they cannot move until after 14th May.
Was only informed of this next Friday thing yesterday & there is no way I can be all packed & ready to go by next Friday, so it looks like it will be next month that I make the big move! (Will be nearly a whole year since the decision to go our separate ways by then!)

H realised all was suddenly moving quite fast, so he drove round to his mum, told her to sit down & broke the news to her.
She was pretty upset & her eyes were welling up as she was told apparantly.

Think H is relieved he has got it over with, as he was having sleepless nights about informing her.

Oh bugger! Well most of you know my other name anyway!!

Really only changed my name here so that people who had followed my story would know who I was. My whole situation is far from a secret now, so I don't need to hide under my stress head names!

Oh I'm useless! I have slipped up so many times over the last couple of years!!
I changed back to post on another thread, then realised I hadn't added about how H was coping with things, posted quickly & realised I hadn't changed my name back to messy when I had already pressed post message!
Doesn't really matter now though.

I agree that having a few extra weeks will probably be better in terms of getting organised etc...and for my stress levels of course!

Wow!
I think that it's good that H has (finally) told his Mum - another cul-de-sac of fiction closed off.
As long as the contracts get exchanged, it doesn't make much difference when you move does it? Is everyone in your circular chain happy with the 14th may date? Next fri seems a bit too soon - even though you can get the removal co to pack, you know! They do it v quickly and efficiently in a day. Can you grit your teeth to last out until 14th May?

Just get the solicitors to get all the exchange of contracts done. Then no-one can back out.

Is it really a year since you decided to split?

It's been 10 months now, Blu! The incident leading up to the split was the end of May last year & the actual decision to separate was made at the very beginning of June!

I can hang on another month. I couldn't do next Friday, it's too soon & would lead me to a complete mental breakdown!!

Had confirmation that contracts had been sent out & that our buyers have already signed.

Yes, a bit impractical if dividing stuff.

It was over 2 years ago that I began posting about my relationship traumas!