Hello Everyone
I am feeling very shaky today as last night I finally got the message through to my partner that our relationship was over. It took over four hours and I eventually had to be very blunt with him as he was not accepting the "please will you move out" line I have used for months.
We have not been getting on well at all for a long time and a few months ago I realised that this is my one chance at life and I needed to sort myself out. There are a lot of different issues involved but the main ones are that he is completely financially inept - no bank account therefore no joint mortgage, he never gets up in the morning without me begging him, he drinks too much comes home drunk and leaves pans on the stove etc etc.
Anyway I have been calm and reasonable and asked him to move out several times and he refuses so last night I told him that our relationship was over and that I would not change my mind. He kept saying he could not believe I was giving up so easily (!) and that I was selfish etc. I told him that I was sorry as it was the last thing I wanted but that I had lost respect for him and that he was not the person I wanted to be with.
He now calling me all the names under the sun and saying that I am a bad mother as jeaparising DS's future etc.
Sorry this is so long! Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? I want it to be reasonably amicable - is that possible? THe bottom line is that he is DS's dad and I want him and DS to have a good relationship, regardless of the fact that I can no longer live with him.