Ex applied for child maintenance what do I do now

[Jordpd]

Split up with my ex earlier on this year and she moved back to her hometown I met someone else soon after and I didn't have no contact with my ex at all throughout the whole pregnancy. Last time we spoke she said she didn't want me to have anything to do with him and I agreed. I've now recieved a letter today he is 2 weeks old do I have to pay? Even though we both agreed i would have no involvement. The reason is because our relationship was toxic were 100 miles away from eachother its going to cause a lot of hassle.

Shocking news. Children cost money. Who would have guessed.
£120 is nothing.
Clothes.
Nappies.
Somewhere to sleep.
Somewhere to put clothes
Toys
Books
Shoes
Food
Heating
Hot water
Roof over head
Pushchair because lets face it, not everyone can do a sling
Carseat if driving
Bottles and sterilising stuff if cannot/doesn't want to breast feed.

there's probably loads I have left off, and that's just the basics for the first year. Unfortunately, these things don't come from fresh air, and money is needed. £120 a month is your share. Mum will be paying more.

And it's a tad hard to contact someone when they have been blocked. She probably had contacted you, but thought you were ignoring her. So she did the logical thing and contact CMS who have decided based on your income you need to pay xx.

Who do you think should pay for the child that YOU created? Me?

You sound like a right charmer!

WTF do you think babies cost, he needs to eat, have clothes, a roof over his head and you think she's asking for child support to 'spite' you!

Be grateful you only have to pay £120, my ex pays £350 for one child and so he bloody should!

Grow up and grow a pair and do the right thing. If not the CMS will just take it directly from your salary.

She said she didn't want anything from me when she moved back home £120 a month is a lot for me each month

She doesn't want anything from you; she needs it in order to bring up YOUR child, which will cost her much more than £120 a month.

just pay it,and leave them the fuck alone. It's best all ways round that way.

Sorry for the misinformation it's been a while since I had to navigate these waters (wasn't even me, but a friend).

I remember an unpleasant amount of pressure to name a father who could be pursued for support - but I don't recall the details.

Maybe I could pay some extra tax every month to pay for your baby? Would that suit you?

Pay. Simple.

It was incredibly selfish of her to get herself pregnant with your child without you having any say in it.

Regardless of the relationship the parents have, a child has a right to be supported. You can't opt out of that.

What an utter arsehole poor kid for having you as a dad

Wanker. What a cop out.

Geretrude the CSA would not call you to make you open a case. They stopped making mothers on Income Support make a claim through CSA back in 2008.

OP what age are you? Regardless of your involvement you need to support your child .. £120 does not go far with a baby and even less by the time the child reaches his teen's (speaking from experience)

Really? Well no one seemed to have told the woman who rang me in 2011 (not 3 years' ago but not 2008 either) who laughed and said 'One night stand and you didn't catch his name, was it?' with a tinkly little laugh.

Maybe she was just being a bitch for a laugh then

Po

My son has no contact with his "dad" either because he is a twat and puts his own needs first... just like you but I still make him pay child support

Hang on, did you know she was pregnant when she moved away? You didn't just find out when the baby was born?

If so, what on earth did you expect? - that by going no contact that automatically transferred all the responsibility onto her shoulders? - which it almost is, because your £30 a week or so in maintenance isn't going to pay for jack sh*t or otherwise raise the child. Do you not see that her life position is 100 times more difficult than yours, for the next 20 years or so? Not exactly doing it to spite you then, is she.

The father of my child will not be informed his son is born until a letter from CMS drops through his door asking for £200 a month.

I don't want him anywhere near me or my baby, however I will be ensuring he provides for his son, regardless of whether he contacts me for contact or not, fact is, he put his p*nis inside me, he deals with what happens after!

Let's be fair £120 a month is nothing, do you know how much your ex will be paying?? 90% of all costs for the rest of his life so £120 a month is pretty bloody minimal.

To be honest, if you both lived together, you would be footing a lot more of the bill, I'm guessing now you've got a new gf, your baby is now a massive inconvenience?? Ah yes, most men feel this way when they now want a new life with a new gf!

Sorry to sound harsh, however I hate men who are selfish w*nkers and don't care about the child they created.