Ex applied for child maintenance what do I do now

[Jordpd]

Split up with my ex earlier on this year and she moved back to her hometown I met someone else soon after and I didn't have no contact with my ex at all throughout the whole pregnancy. Last time we spoke she said she didn't want me to have anything to do with him and I agreed. I've now recieved a letter today he is 2 weeks old do I have to pay? Even though we both agreed i would have no involvement. The reason is because our relationship was toxic were 100 miles away from eachother its going to cause a lot of hassle.

£120 is not a lot to raise a child on though is it? £4 a day?

But you knew he existed - because you agreed you'd have nothing to do with him.

You've blocked her and you want her to what - write you a nice letter? You would have ignored it.

You made the baby, you pass for his upkeep. Next time, take some responsibility for contraception.

Of course you have to pay. You had sex, you got someone pregnant. Just because you don't want anything to do with him it doesn't mean that you get to not financially contribute. Next time? Don't have sex.

Ahh its shit isnt it. You bring a child in to the world and you are expected to pay for its upkeep! Pesky kids

£120 a month is peanuts and wont keep him in nappies and food for a month.
Nobody can force you to be his father but they can force you to pay for his upbringing.

Next time use protection. For now pay for your child and stop whining.

You came on a parenting site to ask if people should support their children

Uh- huh

Yes of course you have to pay, why wouldn't you? You helped create the child, you help support it. No excuses.

She said she didn't want anything from me when she moved back home £120 a month is a lot for me each month

That really is nothing compared to the actual cost of raising a child. Take responsibility for the life you helped create and pay it for fucks sake.

You don't get to just 'have nothing to do with it' I'm afraid. You can be completely uninvolved with the ex and child, but he needs to be financially supported by the two people who created him. That's how it works.

Oh ffs OP

Really?

Dickhead.

Reverse

Yes you have to pay. You made a baby, it's your responsibility. Your child is entitled to that money.

Don't blame her for this, she's not legally allowed to say that she doesn't want anything from you - as soon as she tried to apply for benefits she will have been told she has to claim support from the father of the child if the identity is known. The government doesn't allow her the luxury of allowing you to get away scott free leaving the tax payer with a bigger shortfall.

What makes you think that itly?

Itly as far as I'm aware benefits aren't affected by child support payments, unless it's changed. It's also a big assumption to make that the mum is on benefits. It's entirely possible that she quite rightly wants the father to do his bit for his child.

Thats not true Itly anout the benifits I mean.

That used to be the case Itly but it isn't now.

I'm a single parent and when I was on income support (for 3 months), the CSA rang me to try and get me to tell them who DS's dad was so that they could chase him for child support.

That was 3 years ago

Is this another daily mail drama bait?

If it's not, then OP, have a think....... raising a child is an enormous and relentless undertaking. Financially, emotionally, practically.

It will cost your x in loss of earnings, ability to save, loss of freedom. Yes she'll have the fulfillment of parenthood but it is a massive undertaking to raise a child alone.

My x did not understand this. He thought that because I was not starving then I'd no business asking for the sacrifices of parenting to be equalised.

ps, also, laughing through the pain at ''£120 a month is a lot to me"

Raising a child costs every spare cent for two decades. I wish I could minimise the expense so tidily to just £120

If you were my son, I would be ashamed. Your attitude stinks. You created a life and its your responsibility to provide for him.

Yes, yes you do have to pay.

Don't get any pets or make anymore kids..

Congratulations on becoming a dad. Yes you will have to pay but you have a beautiful baby boy. Maybe think about access, getting in contact, building bridges etc.

Wtf, er yes

You block her ...She has a new born baby to look after alone and you want her to spend hours trying to bypass the blocks you have put in place....Well she did the CMS.