Anyone been taken to court by x for Parental Responsibility

[fairyfly]

Do you know what's involved? What do they discuss, do they drag up everything? How much time it takes to sort out? Everything really. I've been told the father always gets it, is that true? Questions, questions.......
I have just recieved a letter from my solicitor,it is a copy of his solicitors letter, full of lies,but he has set the wheels in motion for taking me to court.

I feel really weird, i keep reading the letter. When its in black and white in front of me it scares me. How on earth do two people get like this? I thought i wouldn't get upset and i was getting strong,but i don't want this nastiness.

So what happened to his poetry and sentiments of the other day?

Was it not perfectly timed so that this would arrive as soon as you felt (in his plans) a little hope?

What an evil git.

I didn't feel hope, i don't want him back honestly. I just felt perhaps he was realising, maybe growing up, and things were going to change. Then this , its just so up and down, it will send me crazy ( i know it won't really) just feel really hurt.

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If you are the only person with parental responsibility at the moment, Harman, then you can change the children's names without consulting exp. You'd simply need to do another deed poll for each (although this is not strictly necessary, it makes life easier as so many places/people seem more comfortable when there is a piece of paper to refer to).

However, as exp has put you on notice that he intends to apply for a pro, it might be argued that you shouldn't change the children's names at this point. Once he has a pro, you would need his consent to change their names.

There is nothing to stop you changing your own name.

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As I said, you could do this anyway as you are the only person with parental responsibility. However, if you do this now, having been put on notice that exp intends to apply to the court for an order, it may be seen as being unreasonable and the court could order a reversal. You can change your name with no problems. Wrt the children, it is a bit of a grey area given his stated intentions.

You could of course give it a go and see what happens. At the end of the day, if the court order you to change their names back again, you're only back where you started.

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